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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 509068" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>Just keep your eye on the ball. There is no way you can change the PO or the PIA woman or "the system". Just not going to happen. The goal is to get services that will have a chance of helping difficult child readjust to regular living again. The PIA likely does see herself as "the" answer for all kids. You and I know there is no "one" answer for difficult children.</p><p></p><p>Why not reverse the process? Instead of taking your list (again, sigh) take a notebook and pen, ask them to share with you all the various levels of assistance they can render and write them down as they go. It's OK to ask "why would do you believe this would be beneficial? Narrow down the list by asking questions and making notes on their responses. </p><p></p><p>If you don't feel comfortable responding to a specific offer of help either ask questions or say something like "There is nothing more important to me than making sure my son has appropriate supports and I don't feel comfortable making a committment at this time." I doubt they will try to hold your feet to the fire for an instant response. on the other hand you, in my humble opinion, have to "present" as fully committed to the goal and not in the least bit "anti". </p><p></p><p>Actually I wonder what difficult child's input would be when discussing supports. He may have done enough self reflection to say "Mom I think x might help me." It's possible. by the way, where is he now? Are you able to talk to him and hope to visit with him soon? DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 509068, member: 35"] Just keep your eye on the ball. There is no way you can change the PO or the PIA woman or "the system". Just not going to happen. The goal is to get services that will have a chance of helping difficult child readjust to regular living again. The PIA likely does see herself as "the" answer for all kids. You and I know there is no "one" answer for difficult children. Why not reverse the process? Instead of taking your list (again, sigh) take a notebook and pen, ask them to share with you all the various levels of assistance they can render and write them down as they go. It's OK to ask "why would do you believe this would be beneficial? Narrow down the list by asking questions and making notes on their responses. If you don't feel comfortable responding to a specific offer of help either ask questions or say something like "There is nothing more important to me than making sure my son has appropriate supports and I don't feel comfortable making a committment at this time." I doubt they will try to hold your feet to the fire for an instant response. on the other hand you, in my humble opinion, have to "present" as fully committed to the goal and not in the least bit "anti". Actually I wonder what difficult child's input would be when discussing supports. He may have done enough self reflection to say "Mom I think x might help me." It's possible. by the way, where is he now? Are you able to talk to him and hope to visit with him soon? DDD [/QUOTE]
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