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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 598988" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>Katie is just now realizing that spoiling the kids rotten once they got into the apartment was a terrible mistake. </p><p></p><p>Kayla has acquired a huge sense of entitlement and the anger in my opinion is making that even worse. Katie and M's income at the moment is very very low due to little or no work hours for M. It was a big deal them getting that phone for her even if it was a cheap one. Obviously she didn't appreciate the gift, had no respect for the gift. I told Katie if she gave the child another phone she was just plain crazy. (I would never have given her one to begin with, especially at her age) My kids, even working, had to wait until they were 18 for such a privilege........and I certainly did NOT pay for it. </p><p></p><p>Kayla also demands (not asks) for the pricey name brand clothes. Now Kayla has no clothes shortage going on, she even has her friends passing on outgrown clothes to her (which are those name brands). In fact she has sooooo many clothes she can change up to 5/6 times a day without blinking. Often more. Laundry is a big deal to her parents. They pay 4.00 for a single load in the washer.....then there is the cost of the dryer........and because kayla is changing so much she is always "out" of clean clothes. Katie says she is having to do several loads up to 3 times a week. I told her to remove half of Kayla's wardrobe and lock it up (she has a storage closet she can do this with). When she runs out of clothes she can wear "dirty" clothes until the weekly laundry day. If she doesn't like it, she can stop changing her clothes so often. Good grief! I told Katie during the summer my kids were required to wear an outfit twice, 3 times if it didn't look dirty or smell of sweat. Having to pay for your laundry is expensive without Kayla actively working to make it worse while she plays the role of diva. omg </p><p></p><p>And that is something else....... Kayla plays this role of the little diva. Does not help that Daddy will spoil her out of her mind given half the chance. I have yet to witness once where her Dad could actually manage to tell the child no about something she wants. </p><p></p><p>Kayla did discover disrespecting her mother didn't go over well at the yard sale with her extended family. She didn't repeat the performance at the following family gathering. </p><p></p><p>Kayla loves Art. If anything is her "thing" that would be it. I do all I can to encourage her. In fact her birthday presents are canvases, a real easel, some good books on sketching ect. I've been giving her quality supplies for a while. If I had the money I would enroll her in the summer art program at the college for kids. But it isn't cheap and I have no extra cash right now. </p><p></p><p>Katie is not doing too bad with discipline. I just can't quite seem to get her to take the hint that it can't just be about discipline. You have to counter that with some attention, affection.......for balance. Goes along with the whole you can't just criticize, you have to balance it with genuine praise as well. As far as I know, katie doesn't seem to do anything really "fun" with Kayla like cooking or make up or hair styles or whatnot that she would enjoy at this age.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 598988, member: 84"] Katie is just now realizing that spoiling the kids rotten once they got into the apartment was a terrible mistake. Kayla has acquired a huge sense of entitlement and the anger in my opinion is making that even worse. Katie and M's income at the moment is very very low due to little or no work hours for M. It was a big deal them getting that phone for her even if it was a cheap one. Obviously she didn't appreciate the gift, had no respect for the gift. I told Katie if she gave the child another phone she was just plain crazy. (I would never have given her one to begin with, especially at her age) My kids, even working, had to wait until they were 18 for such a privilege........and I certainly did NOT pay for it. Kayla also demands (not asks) for the pricey name brand clothes. Now Kayla has no clothes shortage going on, she even has her friends passing on outgrown clothes to her (which are those name brands). In fact she has sooooo many clothes she can change up to 5/6 times a day without blinking. Often more. Laundry is a big deal to her parents. They pay 4.00 for a single load in the washer.....then there is the cost of the dryer........and because kayla is changing so much she is always "out" of clean clothes. Katie says she is having to do several loads up to 3 times a week. I told her to remove half of Kayla's wardrobe and lock it up (she has a storage closet she can do this with). When she runs out of clothes she can wear "dirty" clothes until the weekly laundry day. If she doesn't like it, she can stop changing her clothes so often. Good grief! I told Katie during the summer my kids were required to wear an outfit twice, 3 times if it didn't look dirty or smell of sweat. Having to pay for your laundry is expensive without Kayla actively working to make it worse while she plays the role of diva. omg And that is something else....... Kayla plays this role of the little diva. Does not help that Daddy will spoil her out of her mind given half the chance. I have yet to witness once where her Dad could actually manage to tell the child no about something she wants. Kayla did discover disrespecting her mother didn't go over well at the yard sale with her extended family. She didn't repeat the performance at the following family gathering. Kayla loves Art. If anything is her "thing" that would be it. I do all I can to encourage her. In fact her birthday presents are canvases, a real easel, some good books on sketching ect. I've been giving her quality supplies for a while. If I had the money I would enroll her in the summer art program at the college for kids. But it isn't cheap and I have no extra cash right now. Katie is not doing too bad with discipline. I just can't quite seem to get her to take the hint that it can't just be about discipline. You have to counter that with some attention, affection.......for balance. Goes along with the whole you can't just criticize, you have to balance it with genuine praise as well. As far as I know, katie doesn't seem to do anything really "fun" with Kayla like cooking or make up or hair styles or whatnot that she would enjoy at this age. [/QUOTE]
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