Guys, I love the list. It is what we learned about in hte Love and Logic seminar in Dec ( a friend took me andher daughter in law to listen to Dr. Charles Fay talk).
He talked about an answer that showed you were listening but were not going to solve it. He went through the audience asking what we would say. It has to be a phrase you repeat, that you can use every time so that it is your second nature. (This gives you time to think of hwat you really want to do/say about the matter.)
He said that in Brooklyn one teacher in the class came up with "S--ks to be you."
I like that one for my teen difficult child. Sometimes it just fits when he is griping about Gpa (who he begged to live with!)
Usually I use, "I don't think I would enjoy that." This has the advantage of stumping the PTA and phone solicitors.
Star, major eye-rolls for Stardude. Still, if he is under 18, check your insurance!!
Susie
