My son has been in sober living for 2 weeks and everyone there says he's doing fantastic. Until yesterday. He failed his pee test with THC levels that had spiked. He swears he did NOT get high, smoke etc. They aren't buying it. His THC levels had continued to go down since treatment and the spike is a dead giveaway to them. He talked to his father about it. My husband said he wants to give him the benefit of the doubt - he's so convincing - and I said "he's lying". I blocked son on my phone (they are letting him keep it since he has been offered a job and is waiting for background check and it's an old phone) and told him to lose my number until he's ready to get serious about changing his life. He has a sponsor, goes to meetings etc. and is totally compliant with program. This is the first time he has done this well without having attitude. Last night he called husband and naturally I had to speak up. He swore on his life, our life, brothers life, dogs life that he did not do anything. Working out and maybe that's it?? He said he has been doing so good and sober 64 days and why would he do that knowing he's tested??? I told him he's a liar and a stranger and that I doubted he would ever live a normal life. I told him that I am not letting him kill me with all this stress. He said he doesn't want to and it's a shame that I feel that way. HUH?? I told him all he cares about is himself. He said he only lies when he uses. I'd feel better if he just told the truth even if he did do it. He said he is being punished anyway by moving back to higher level of treatment for a week. Yes I was mean. Real mean. Many people that know me have said I'm one of the nicest people they know. Do I regret it? Not really.