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<blockquote data-quote="Tiredof33" data-source="post: 587321" data-attributes="member: 13558"><p>It's hard! My difficult child started at an early age and he often tried to 'slip' people in. My rule was you have to ask me first, he did not, and all of them were difficult children just like him. He stole from me and helped his friends steal from me. One policeman called me, after my difficult child gave 'friends' the keys to my car to steal it from my carport, and told me I had a problem at home. DUH, YOU REALLY THINK SO!!!</p><p></p><p>After many school battles I drove my gifted difficult child to take the GED exam and I told him to start looking for a place to live. If I made a rule my difficult child seemed to ignore it or do the opposite on purpose. He always worked during this time and spent every cent he earned.</p><p></p><p>I had moved to another state after retiring and I thought my difficult child was doing much better. Then he lost his job when the economy went bad and I was helping him to finish some college courses. It was a lie, he had dropped out that semester and they were partying with my money.</p><p></p><p>I finally had to call the police to stop the harrassment from the 38yo girlfriend. I was fed up and stopped sending money and difficult child threatens suicide. There is always so much drama with him and girlfriend is just like him (sigh). He has gone no contact with me since November, it is so peaceful. My helping has not helped my difficult child and I finally realized that he will continue to depend on me for the rest of his life. However, I choose not too. </p><p></p><p>I watch so many in my family <em>helping</em> adults that just can't get their life together and will not until they learn that their life is their responsibility and no one elses. We also have problems with full time work (small town) so they can do just like I did and move to an area that has work. A person can be a difficult child without the drugs and alcohol, but add them together and it is a disaster.</p><p></p><p>You sound very stressed, that care of yourself!</p><p>(((huggs and blessings for us all)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tiredof33, post: 587321, member: 13558"] It's hard! My difficult child started at an early age and he often tried to 'slip' people in. My rule was you have to ask me first, he did not, and all of them were difficult children just like him. He stole from me and helped his friends steal from me. One policeman called me, after my difficult child gave 'friends' the keys to my car to steal it from my carport, and told me I had a problem at home. DUH, YOU REALLY THINK SO!!! After many school battles I drove my gifted difficult child to take the GED exam and I told him to start looking for a place to live. If I made a rule my difficult child seemed to ignore it or do the opposite on purpose. He always worked during this time and spent every cent he earned. I had moved to another state after retiring and I thought my difficult child was doing much better. Then he lost his job when the economy went bad and I was helping him to finish some college courses. It was a lie, he had dropped out that semester and they were partying with my money. I finally had to call the police to stop the harrassment from the 38yo girlfriend. I was fed up and stopped sending money and difficult child threatens suicide. There is always so much drama with him and girlfriend is just like him (sigh). He has gone no contact with me since November, it is so peaceful. My helping has not helped my difficult child and I finally realized that he will continue to depend on me for the rest of his life. However, I choose not too. I watch so many in my family [I]helping[/I] adults that just can't get their life together and will not until they learn that their life is their responsibility and no one elses. We also have problems with full time work (small town) so they can do just like I did and move to an area that has work. A person can be a difficult child without the drugs and alcohol, but add them together and it is a disaster. You sound very stressed, that care of yourself! (((huggs and blessings for us all) [/QUOTE]
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