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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 587916" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>D&C, I think there is a little bit more going on with your relationship with your daughter too. Your daughter survived a life threatening illness when she was very young and that has to weigh on you deep down. Even though she is a PITA, how on earth can you toss that same little girl you fought so hard for out of your house? I get that. It would be almost as if you were cutting out a piece of your heart. </p><p></p><p>You talk about how your daughter is supposed to be saving for a car but she isnt doing it. How about starting charging her rent and putting it in a savings account for that car. Just dont tell her what you are doing. I would charge her a bit above that amount. Think about what she earns each week and take one third of her net pay each week. Put 75% of that into the savings account for the car and use the rest for actual rent. I know it wont be a lot of money in reality but its something. </p><p></p><p>I would also sit down and go over a new contract about how roommates live together. Several people have told me that about having Cory do that when he moved back into my house before and I didnt and it was a mistake. I wish a contract would solve my current problem but it wont because Im the only one who would attempt to enforce it and Tony wouldnt let me. </p><p></p><p>Maybe it would with you, if only to give you some time for her to work to find a new place to stay without actually tossing her out.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 587916, member: 1514"] D&C, I think there is a little bit more going on with your relationship with your daughter too. Your daughter survived a life threatening illness when she was very young and that has to weigh on you deep down. Even though she is a PITA, how on earth can you toss that same little girl you fought so hard for out of your house? I get that. It would be almost as if you were cutting out a piece of your heart. You talk about how your daughter is supposed to be saving for a car but she isnt doing it. How about starting charging her rent and putting it in a savings account for that car. Just dont tell her what you are doing. I would charge her a bit above that amount. Think about what she earns each week and take one third of her net pay each week. Put 75% of that into the savings account for the car and use the rest for actual rent. I know it wont be a lot of money in reality but its something. I would also sit down and go over a new contract about how roommates live together. Several people have told me that about having Cory do that when he moved back into my house before and I didnt and it was a mistake. I wish a contract would solve my current problem but it wont because Im the only one who would attempt to enforce it and Tony wouldnt let me. Maybe it would with you, if only to give you some time for her to work to find a new place to stay without actually tossing her out. [/QUOTE]
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