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<blockquote data-quote="donna723" data-source="post: 259082" data-attributes="member: 1883"><p>This is really my brothers situation, not mine, but I was just wondering ... if a girl (my niece) who is divorcing receives food stamps for herself and her two kids, will the govt. go after Deadbeat Daddy who refuses to pay child support (which caused her to have to go on food stamps)? I really don't know much about all this.</p><p> </p><p>My brothers daughter married a total loser, a complete jerk - but she <em>loved</em> him! Yeah, right! We'll call him "Bozo"! Within a year she had a little boy who is almost three now. He has lived with my brother and sister in law almost from birth. "Bozo" has serious drug and alcohol problems, he's abusive to her, refuses to work, and when he did, he'd spend it all on drugs and bar hopping. He has not contributed even one dime towards his sons' support in almost three years! And my niece stayed with him and let her parents raise her baby, with occasional visits to his parents 'home'. Then she ended up pregnant again and finally left Bozo and came home to her parents house. Now she has a second child, a beautiful little boy, four weeks old, and I think she's finally seeing the light!</p><p> </p><p>My sister in law works full time at a rather low paying job. My brother has had his hours cut back and has been 'furloughed' a few times, although it's picked up a little lately. Plus he's got a second part time job on the weekends. So they're not only supporting themselves but also their newly graduated son, their grown daughter, and two babies! He's supporting them all plus paying all those medical bills from the birth of the baby. Our little county has an unemployment rate of OVER 27&#37;, the third highest in the nation! There are NO jobs here so their son is kind of stuck! I'm worried about my brother and sister in law, all the stress they're under and all the financial pressures on them, and something's gotta give! </p><p> </p><p>"Bozo" has NEVER paid child support - not even once in three years! He saw the new baby once, for a few minutes - didn't seem too interested. Every time the 3 year old sees his father (very rarely) he comes home spouting a whole new group of swear words that he's heard, and his 'father' is so irresponsible that it's not safe for him to be there, and the rest of the "Bozo" clan is no better. Since he will never pay child support (he'd rather sit in jail) my niece wants to not ask for it, on the condition that he signs away his parental rights and never sees either child again. Can they do that? She doesn't think he'd agree though, not because he cares about the kids, but because signing away any rights he has to them might make him 'look bad' to his buddies! Disgusting! I would think that he might be able to sign away his "rights" to the kids but not his 'obligations'. My niece is not on welfare because she lives with her parents, but they have determined that she is eligible for food stamps for her and the two children. That will help A LOT! I know they would go after "Bozo" for child support if she was on welfare. But if she's receiving govt assistance in the form of food stamps, will they also go after him for repayment of that too? I sincerely hope so, and I sincerely hope to have a front row seat when and if they do! Hopefully things will pick up around here and she will be able to find a decent job in a while, but in the meantime she'll be on food stamps because "Bozo" refuses to support his children!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="donna723, post: 259082, member: 1883"] This is really my brothers situation, not mine, but I was just wondering ... if a girl (my niece) who is divorcing receives food stamps for herself and her two kids, will the govt. go after Deadbeat Daddy who refuses to pay child support (which caused her to have to go on food stamps)? I really don't know much about all this. My brothers daughter married a total loser, a complete jerk - but she [I]loved[/I] him! Yeah, right! We'll call him "Bozo"! Within a year she had a little boy who is almost three now. He has lived with my brother and sister in law almost from birth. "Bozo" has serious drug and alcohol problems, he's abusive to her, refuses to work, and when he did, he'd spend it all on drugs and bar hopping. He has not contributed even one dime towards his sons' support in almost three years! And my niece stayed with him and let her parents raise her baby, with occasional visits to his parents 'home'. Then she ended up pregnant again and finally left Bozo and came home to her parents house. Now she has a second child, a beautiful little boy, four weeks old, and I think she's finally seeing the light! My sister in law works full time at a rather low paying job. My brother has had his hours cut back and has been 'furloughed' a few times, although it's picked up a little lately. Plus he's got a second part time job on the weekends. So they're not only supporting themselves but also their newly graduated son, their grown daughter, and two babies! He's supporting them all plus paying all those medical bills from the birth of the baby. Our little county has an unemployment rate of OVER 27%, the third highest in the nation! There are NO jobs here so their son is kind of stuck! I'm worried about my brother and sister in law, all the stress they're under and all the financial pressures on them, and something's gotta give! "Bozo" has NEVER paid child support - not even once in three years! He saw the new baby once, for a few minutes - didn't seem too interested. Every time the 3 year old sees his father (very rarely) he comes home spouting a whole new group of swear words that he's heard, and his 'father' is so irresponsible that it's not safe for him to be there, and the rest of the "Bozo" clan is no better. Since he will never pay child support (he'd rather sit in jail) my niece wants to not ask for it, on the condition that he signs away his parental rights and never sees either child again. Can they do that? She doesn't think he'd agree though, not because he cares about the kids, but because signing away any rights he has to them might make him 'look bad' to his buddies! Disgusting! I would think that he might be able to sign away his "rights" to the kids but not his 'obligations'. My niece is not on welfare because she lives with her parents, but they have determined that she is eligible for food stamps for her and the two children. That will help A LOT! I know they would go after "Bozo" for child support if she was on welfare. But if she's receiving govt assistance in the form of food stamps, will they also go after him for repayment of that too? I sincerely hope so, and I sincerely hope to have a front row seat when and if they do! Hopefully things will pick up around here and she will be able to find a decent job in a while, but in the meantime she'll be on food stamps because "Bozo" refuses to support his children! [/QUOTE]
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