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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 347841" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>Linda.... I'm so sorry.</p><p></p><p>One thing has me really irritated on your behalf though. This has absolutely *nothing* to do with your health, or "ability to parent", and I think that this should be made very clear to the team because it has a bearing on her placement, in my humble opinion. Kt could be living with the most fit and healthy parent in the world, and this garbage would still be going on. The team lost its focus. You're not the one who needs monitoring, Linda, and really... I'm quite outraged that you seem to have become the center of attention from *kt's* team. It's bologna, pure and simple.</p><p></p><p>They returned kt home without, in my humble opinion, appropriate supports and a backup plan. Realistically, Linda, kt needs 24/7 supervision and *no* parent can do that. Heck, Residential Treatment Center (RTC) couldn't do that. The team set you both up for failure. I just get the sense that they were more tuned in to your struggles while completely disregarding kt's established pattern of behaviors and their escalation.</p><p></p><p>The team has been watching *you* closely? To what end? Would anything have been different had you been in top shape? No, I don't believe so. No one can keep kt safe if she continues to make these choices - not Residential Treatment Center (RTC), not a foster placement, nothing short of a locked placement. I think that the team needs to refocus on her and recognize the huge challenge it will be to keep her safe. kt has her agenda, fueled by so many distorted thought processes. </p><p></p><p>This is not your failure or fault. This didn't work not because of your health but because kt is kt. Don't you dare let her, or the team, put this on you, hon. kt is abandoning you by virtue of her continued and escalating dangerous choices. </p><p></p><p>I'm just afraid that if the team chalks this all up to your health (really, I'm just burning up over that), they will make a poor choice by incorrectly assuming that placing her with a more physically able caretaker, the problem will be solved. kt is like sand... she will take the smallest opportunity and exploit it to its max.</p><p></p><p>Wm... bless his heart. Frustrating when they turn years of therapy around and use it against us. I'm glad you called him on his bologna. How is this going to be handled by FM and the team? </p><p></p><p>I very strongly agree with- getting a security system, Linda. It needs to be done for your safety. </p><p></p><p>Many gentle hugs to you, my friend. I'm so terribly sorry.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 347841, member: 8"] Linda.... I'm so sorry. One thing has me really irritated on your behalf though. This has absolutely *nothing* to do with your health, or "ability to parent", and I think that this should be made very clear to the team because it has a bearing on her placement, in my humble opinion. Kt could be living with the most fit and healthy parent in the world, and this garbage would still be going on. The team lost its focus. You're not the one who needs monitoring, Linda, and really... I'm quite outraged that you seem to have become the center of attention from *kt's* team. It's bologna, pure and simple. They returned kt home without, in my humble opinion, appropriate supports and a backup plan. Realistically, Linda, kt needs 24/7 supervision and *no* parent can do that. Heck, Residential Treatment Center (RTC) couldn't do that. The team set you both up for failure. I just get the sense that they were more tuned in to your struggles while completely disregarding kt's established pattern of behaviors and their escalation. The team has been watching *you* closely? To what end? Would anything have been different had you been in top shape? No, I don't believe so. No one can keep kt safe if she continues to make these choices - not Residential Treatment Center (RTC), not a foster placement, nothing short of a locked placement. I think that the team needs to refocus on her and recognize the huge challenge it will be to keep her safe. kt has her agenda, fueled by so many distorted thought processes. This is not your failure or fault. This didn't work not because of your health but because kt is kt. Don't you dare let her, or the team, put this on you, hon. kt is abandoning you by virtue of her continued and escalating dangerous choices. I'm just afraid that if the team chalks this all up to your health (really, I'm just burning up over that), they will make a poor choice by incorrectly assuming that placing her with a more physically able caretaker, the problem will be solved. kt is like sand... she will take the smallest opportunity and exploit it to its max. Wm... bless his heart. Frustrating when they turn years of therapy around and use it against us. I'm glad you called him on his bologna. How is this going to be handled by FM and the team? I very strongly agree with- getting a security system, Linda. It needs to be done for your safety. Many gentle hugs to you, my friend. I'm so terribly sorry. [/QUOTE]
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