So I had a facilitated IEP meeting for difficult child today (LOOOONG story) where the autism specialist let her thoughts on what was going on be known to me during a break "off the record because she's on the school's payroll". Anyhow, after the meeting was over, I called her to get some advice from her perspective "off the record". I know her from the community theater group easy child/difficult child has been involved with for the past 3 years. We were talking and she asked me how easy child/difficult child was doing. I told her some of the Aspie traits I've begun to notice (since I've become educated). She laughed and said that's funny because when she first met easy child/difficult child, she noticed some right away. As we were talking more about it, I told her that easy child/difficult child's therapist (who diagnosis'd difficult child) asked me at easy child/difficult child's first appointment last week if there were any developmental delays for easy child/difficult child. There weren't any but he has some of the very same behaviors as difficult child but that manifest in different ways and in different contexts. Can someone have Asperger's if there were never any developmental delays? easy child/difficult child has obsessive thoughts at times, takes things very literally sometimes, is socially awkward in that he doesn't recognize personal boundaries, has immature reactions when things don't go his way, is perfectionistic especially when it comes to schoolwork, etc. I was under the assumption that developmental delays are like a prerequisite for an Autism Spectrum Disorders (ASD) diagnosis. Guess I need even further education from my "experts". Thanks for being so patient with me.