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<blockquote data-quote="goldenguru" data-source="post: 291436" data-attributes="member: 1545"><p>Hi Donna -</p><p></p><p>My heart goes out to you. My heart goes out to your son. </p><p></p><p>As you may/may not know, my husband attempted suicide for the 2nd time last November. Like your son, he ended up on life support for many days. They did not expect him to live. So, I know the disorienting effect this has on survivors. Almost 9 months later, I still have some panic attacks when I can't get a hold of my husband.</p><p></p><p>Years ago, I had a dear friend whose daughter had a very bad battle with an eating disorder. We were out walking one day, and she told me that she had prepared her heart for her daughters death. I looked at her like she has sprouted a 3rd ear. But, I tucked her 'wisdom' away in the deepest place of my heart.</p><p></p><p>Shortly after my husbands 2nd attempt, I saw a therapist. She encouraged me to fully consider that my husband may in fact complete his next attempt. I began to do so. It sounds terribly negative I know.</p><p></p><p>This is the ultimate form of detachment in my opinion. I love my husband dearly. But, I must also understand that aside from loving him and encouraging him - I have no power over his decision to live or die. I enjoy every day I have with him. </p><p></p><p>My husband was also raised by an abusive father. The damage seems irrevocable. It was after my husbands last illness that he really began to understand the extent to which parental abuse damaged his emotions and his self esteem. It has been a painful journey. A book that has really helped him in his recovery is called "Healing For Damaged Emotions' by David Seamands. It has a spiritual component to it, but it is an amazing look at how our upbringing affects the way we see ourselves as adults. Amazon carries it if you are interested. </p><p></p><p>Hugs to your heart. Please let me know if I can be of support to you you.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="goldenguru, post: 291436, member: 1545"] Hi Donna - My heart goes out to you. My heart goes out to your son. As you may/may not know, my husband attempted suicide for the 2nd time last November. Like your son, he ended up on life support for many days. They did not expect him to live. So, I know the disorienting effect this has on survivors. Almost 9 months later, I still have some panic attacks when I can't get a hold of my husband. Years ago, I had a dear friend whose daughter had a very bad battle with an eating disorder. We were out walking one day, and she told me that she had prepared her heart for her daughters death. I looked at her like she has sprouted a 3rd ear. But, I tucked her 'wisdom' away in the deepest place of my heart. Shortly after my husbands 2nd attempt, I saw a therapist. She encouraged me to fully consider that my husband may in fact complete his next attempt. I began to do so. It sounds terribly negative I know. This is the ultimate form of detachment in my opinion. I love my husband dearly. But, I must also understand that aside from loving him and encouraging him - I have no power over his decision to live or die. I enjoy every day I have with him. My husband was also raised by an abusive father. The damage seems irrevocable. It was after my husbands last illness that he really began to understand the extent to which parental abuse damaged his emotions and his self esteem. It has been a painful journey. A book that has really helped him in his recovery is called "Healing For Damaged Emotions' by David Seamands. It has a spiritual component to it, but it is an amazing look at how our upbringing affects the way we see ourselves as adults. Amazon carries it if you are interested. Hugs to your heart. Please let me know if I can be of support to you you. [/QUOTE]
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