I finally got kt back into school after 3 days of continuing absentism & boom, she's suspended for today. After talking with the teacher in who's class she was acting out he was pushing for not coming back until after the winter break was over. in my humble opinion, it takes a lot to hack a teacher off to that degree after only one day back at school. Each side of the story is totally different. At one point I did hear kt & the way she was speaking with this teacher in such a disrespectful manner & I don't blame the man. I'd be close to decking my beautiful but dissociated daughter. I asked him if he was even aware that this wasn't "kt"; that she was in a dissociative state? (I could tell over the phone) Teacher replied that "kt isn't thinking clearly; her thoughts are disjointed. However, he didn't seem to care ~ suspension along with transfer back to day treatment. All this was occurring during my mtg with mental health CM & CADI manager sitting at my kitchen island - doing some updating & such. I put the phone on speaker - let mental CM take over; teacher was not backing down on the ADA laws & that the school needed to find a way to cope not suspend. As there was no violence CM is going into the school today once again to speak with vice principal & SW from the program kt attends. His bottom line is that if kt is that "uncontrollable" she is likely dissociative & needs transport to the nearest ER. Expecting mom or anyone else to come pick kt up to transport her home is a dangerous situation for all concerned. (PCA volunteered to pick kt up early & let me know the siutation; she felt that she could transport kt home.) Bottom line is kt is suspended today (possibly thru the end of the week); the teachers feel that I have some kind of magical consequence here that they cannot put into effect at school. By the time I was done speaking with school, kt walked into the door in a very defensive & angry manner. Mental health CM helped me get her medications plus PRN medications into her. Both SWs stayed until kt settled. Mental health CM asked kt what she felt was an appropriate consequence? How mom can support her while making SD feel as though mom was taking them seriously? kt replied, "mom's sad face is enough of a consequence for me". What world is this child living in? A terrified, skaky family & school world. kt sees her attachment specialist along today. I'm going to update him before we get there so he knows the score.