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<blockquote data-quote="SearchingForRainbows" data-source="post: 80508" data-attributes="member: 3388"><p>Terry,</p><p></p><p>To me, it sounds like there are two separate issues here. The first is about difficult child and the level of violence and disrespect he throws at you. The second is about what you want to do with your marriage. </p><p></p><p>in my humble opinion, I don't think it is a good idea for your husband to move out and take difficult child with him. To difficult child, I think this would seem like he "won". However, I do believe that after a short while, husband would see difficult child's "true colors" and wonder how you put up with it for as long as you did. I bet husband would suddenly have lots more respect for you!!!</p><p></p><p>I think when difficult children exhibit high levels of ODD type behavior, it is really important that they see their parents as a united front. If husband takes difficult child and moves out, difficult child would see that united front crumble before his eyes. I think, in the long run, this would only make things worse - Sort of like a band-aid approach to trying to solve this problem.</p><p></p><p>I know, others don't agree with me. This is just me throwing in my two cents worth. I hope that whatever you decide to do, you're totally sure that it is the best course of action for you - the lesser of two evils. </p><p></p><p>Sending cyber hugs. WFEN</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SearchingForRainbows, post: 80508, member: 3388"] Terry, To me, it sounds like there are two separate issues here. The first is about difficult child and the level of violence and disrespect he throws at you. The second is about what you want to do with your marriage. in my humble opinion, I don't think it is a good idea for your husband to move out and take difficult child with him. To difficult child, I think this would seem like he "won". However, I do believe that after a short while, husband would see difficult child's "true colors" and wonder how you put up with it for as long as you did. I bet husband would suddenly have lots more respect for you!!! I think when difficult children exhibit high levels of ODD type behavior, it is really important that they see their parents as a united front. If husband takes difficult child and moves out, difficult child would see that united front crumble before his eyes. I think, in the long run, this would only make things worse - Sort of like a band-aid approach to trying to solve this problem. I know, others don't agree with me. This is just me throwing in my two cents worth. I hope that whatever you decide to do, you're totally sure that it is the best course of action for you - the lesser of two evils. Sending cyber hugs. WFEN [/QUOTE]
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