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<blockquote data-quote="Malika" data-source="post: 606472" data-attributes="member: 11227"><p>Thanks, that's helpful. There's certainly been a big change in J's own relationship to the ADHD. Whereas before the summer he got very upset when I talked about him having it or being different in some ways, now he says to me "It's because I'm hyperactive," to explain some of his behaviour - in ways that are quite perceptive, actually.</p><p>What I now see so clearly is that he needs so much guidance and help and input when it comes to social relationships - not to boss so much, not to touch people and things all the time, to share more readily, etc. And then his outbursts... these have got really worse over the summer. A Moroccan friend we called at the other day was shocked and horrified because he had a big meltdown when we there, talked about her own little boy being "contaminated" by his behaviour. I tried to explain about ADHD but she made a big deal about him just being a bad egg... she's a nurse, too. It's cultural and ignorance but it's clear we're not welcome there any more. It's really sad for J. He's actually desperate to make friends but of course all his ADHD stuff gets in the way. This kind of rejection can only make things worse of course.</p><p>At the same time, the move to Morocco is right, I feel. He is fast learning Arabic and seeing his dad and family. This is where he came from, it is right he should connect to here. Some people are more tolerant and accepting, some more rigorous and judgemental like my friend (ex friend?). We need, he needs stability, of course and I hope we are here for the duration now.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Malika, post: 606472, member: 11227"] Thanks, that's helpful. There's certainly been a big change in J's own relationship to the ADHD. Whereas before the summer he got very upset when I talked about him having it or being different in some ways, now he says to me "It's because I'm hyperactive," to explain some of his behaviour - in ways that are quite perceptive, actually. What I now see so clearly is that he needs so much guidance and help and input when it comes to social relationships - not to boss so much, not to touch people and things all the time, to share more readily, etc. And then his outbursts... these have got really worse over the summer. A Moroccan friend we called at the other day was shocked and horrified because he had a big meltdown when we there, talked about her own little boy being "contaminated" by his behaviour. I tried to explain about ADHD but she made a big deal about him just being a bad egg... she's a nurse, too. It's cultural and ignorance but it's clear we're not welcome there any more. It's really sad for J. He's actually desperate to make friends but of course all his ADHD stuff gets in the way. This kind of rejection can only make things worse of course. At the same time, the move to Morocco is right, I feel. He is fast learning Arabic and seeing his dad and family. This is where he came from, it is right he should connect to here. Some people are more tolerant and accepting, some more rigorous and judgemental like my friend (ex friend?). We need, he needs stability, of course and I hope we are here for the duration now. [/QUOTE]
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