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<blockquote data-quote="Lil" data-source="post: 678332" data-attributes="member: 17309"><p>Okay my dear...I'm going to make you feel better by showing you how bad it could be using myself as an example. I want you to know you are very honored by my saying what I'm about to say...I do NOT share these details and Jabber may see this and I <u>never</u> tell him what I weigh.</p><p> </p><p>I've always been heavy. Literally, I do not remember weighing less than 180 lbs and that was in high school. My all-time high weight was 328 lbs. That's right - three hundred twenty eight pounds! Jabber and I married later in life and I was already around 240 or 250 and he and I love food and we happily ate our way up the scale for years. I gained about 15-20 lbs each year. Now, some people think, "OMG! That much in a year!" But when you are already 250...15 lbs doesn't sound like much. </p><p> </p><p>Anyway, we decided we had to do something and we went for it. I dug out my old WW materials and we started counting calories etc. that very day. It took me a year to lose 70 lbs. It took almost another year to lose 30 more. I lost 100 total. I got down to 228. Now that sounds fat - but at 5'10" that made me a size 16 and really, on me that looked great! I literally hadn't weighed that in 20 years.</p><p> </p><p>Then my brain said, "You're done!" <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite3" alt=":(" title="Frown :(" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":(" /> The weight stayed off for a while, but slowly it came back and now I'm at 289. I actually did hit 300 again, but I've lost a bit. I've also gained a bit, I was down to 279 in September but fell off the wagon. </p><p> </p><p>My point is - it CAN BE DONE! But you can't give up! Just because I'm fat again, doesn't mean it can't be done or that I don't know how to lose weight. I even know how to keep it off - it isn't knowledge I lack, it's determination, which I'm working on finding again myself.</p><p> </p><p>When I was losing before, we were very careful 6 days a week and then let ourselves have anything we wanted for dinner one night a week. There were a lot of little tricks we learned. We order one meal in a restaurant and share it - especially at places where we know the servings is large. Keep plenty of fresh fruits and veg on hand for snacks. MEAL PLAN - I can't stress that enough. If you shop for the meals you'll be cooking and keep to that then you won't be running to the store and subject to impulse buys. </p><p> </p><p>Stress eating and comfort food is the biggest problem. Jabber and I have both been unwell lately - much fried chicken has been consumed. But, that is stopping and we're getting back on track. </p><p> </p><p>Exercise is important, but you don't have to begin by joining a gym or running a marathon. Walk. Do little things like parking at the back of the parking lot when you go to the store, rather than near the front. Go to a mall and window shop. Take the stairs 1 flight, rather than the elevator. Walk when you're on an escalator instead of just standing. Every chance you get, take a quick walk...1 minute even. You work at a school - can you walk around the track one time (1/4 mile) before you go to your car at the end of the day? Little things make a huge difference. Slowly but surely. </p><p> </p><p></p><p> </p><p>I HAVE to speak to this. While I was working on my last 30 lbs and struggling for every ounce - my boss had gastric bypass. She dropped like 150 lbs in the time I lost 20. I was SO JEALOUS! Seriously. I hated her.</p><p> </p><p>Then I <em>really </em>looked at her and what she'd done.</p><p> </p><p>This is MAJOR surgery. There is tremendous medical risk involved and possible lingering health problems after. And the way a person has to eat afterwards! I couldn't do it. There will be a huge change in his life after this. He'll have to change <em>everything</em> about how he eats and he'll have to exercise. My boss joined Curves and worked out nearly every day. Your boyfriend will have to deal with loose skin and digestive issues. If he overeats he will barf. If he eats the wrong things he'll be in pain. He has to be very sure to eat enough protein, NO carbonated drinks, no alcohol, etc., etc. </p><p> </p><p>I don't mean to lecture - but do try to keep this in mind when the time comes. You feeling jealous of your boyfriend won't be good for your relationship. What he's doing will be fast - but it won't be easy. </p><p> </p><p>On the up side - when he has this procedure, you will have incentive to eat properly too! After all, if he's eating a few bites of grilled chicken and veggies you won't be wanting to scarf down a burger in front of him. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p><p> </p><p></p><p> </p><p>This is great advice! Think of yourself as a tortoise - slow and steady wins the race. Weight loss and good health is a journey, not a sprint. </p><p> </p><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/notalone.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":notalone:" title="notalone :notalone:" data-shortname=":notalone:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Lil, post: 678332, member: 17309"] Okay my dear...I'm going to make you feel better by showing you how bad it could be using myself as an example. I want you to know you are very honored by my saying what I'm about to say...I do NOT share these details and Jabber may see this and I [U]never[/U] tell him what I weigh. I've always been heavy. Literally, I do not remember weighing less than 180 lbs and that was in high school. My all-time high weight was 328 lbs. That's right - three hundred twenty eight pounds! Jabber and I married later in life and I was already around 240 or 250 and he and I love food and we happily ate our way up the scale for years. I gained about 15-20 lbs each year. Now, some people think, "OMG! That much in a year!" But when you are already 250...15 lbs doesn't sound like much. Anyway, we decided we had to do something and we went for it. I dug out my old WW materials and we started counting calories etc. that very day. It took me a year to lose 70 lbs. It took almost another year to lose 30 more. I lost 100 total. I got down to 228. Now that sounds fat - but at 5'10" that made me a size 16 and really, on me that looked great! I literally hadn't weighed that in 20 years. Then my brain said, "You're done!" :( The weight stayed off for a while, but slowly it came back and now I'm at 289. I actually did hit 300 again, but I've lost a bit. I've also gained a bit, I was down to 279 in September but fell off the wagon. My point is - it CAN BE DONE! But you can't give up! Just because I'm fat again, doesn't mean it can't be done or that I don't know how to lose weight. I even know how to keep it off - it isn't knowledge I lack, it's determination, which I'm working on finding again myself. When I was losing before, we were very careful 6 days a week and then let ourselves have anything we wanted for dinner one night a week. There were a lot of little tricks we learned. We order one meal in a restaurant and share it - especially at places where we know the servings is large. Keep plenty of fresh fruits and veg on hand for snacks. MEAL PLAN - I can't stress that enough. If you shop for the meals you'll be cooking and keep to that then you won't be running to the store and subject to impulse buys. Stress eating and comfort food is the biggest problem. Jabber and I have both been unwell lately - much fried chicken has been consumed. But, that is stopping and we're getting back on track. Exercise is important, but you don't have to begin by joining a gym or running a marathon. Walk. Do little things like parking at the back of the parking lot when you go to the store, rather than near the front. Go to a mall and window shop. Take the stairs 1 flight, rather than the elevator. Walk when you're on an escalator instead of just standing. Every chance you get, take a quick walk...1 minute even. You work at a school - can you walk around the track one time (1/4 mile) before you go to your car at the end of the day? Little things make a huge difference. Slowly but surely. I HAVE to speak to this. While I was working on my last 30 lbs and struggling for every ounce - my boss had gastric bypass. She dropped like 150 lbs in the time I lost 20. I was SO JEALOUS! Seriously. I hated her. Then I [I]really [/I]looked at her and what she'd done. This is MAJOR surgery. There is tremendous medical risk involved and possible lingering health problems after. And the way a person has to eat afterwards! I couldn't do it. There will be a huge change in his life after this. He'll have to change [I]everything[/I] about how he eats and he'll have to exercise. My boss joined Curves and worked out nearly every day. Your boyfriend will have to deal with loose skin and digestive issues. If he overeats he will barf. If he eats the wrong things he'll be in pain. He has to be very sure to eat enough protein, NO carbonated drinks, no alcohol, etc., etc. I don't mean to lecture - but do try to keep this in mind when the time comes. You feeling jealous of your boyfriend won't be good for your relationship. What he's doing will be fast - but it won't be easy. On the up side - when he has this procedure, you will have incentive to eat properly too! After all, if he's eating a few bites of grilled chicken and veggies you won't be wanting to scarf down a burger in front of him. ;) This is great advice! Think of yourself as a tortoise - slow and steady wins the race. Weight loss and good health is a journey, not a sprint. :notalone: [/QUOTE]
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