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<blockquote data-quote="Stressed2theHilt" data-source="post: 91273" data-attributes="member: 1409"><p></p><p></p><p>Dear Janet,</p><p></p><p>I drive thru western Pennsylvania all the time so yes he very well may have been any number of the drunk drivers I've call 911 over. All of my family lives in western Pennsylvania and drive the roads more often than I do. That qualifies me to say that Ants drunk driving jeopardized my family.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>Ant is not the only son to cause his mother much pain. My son spent 6 weeks locked up in Niagara County Jail in NY (he was 16) but unlike Ant, he was in there for something really stupid. He was locked up for 6 weeks for missing a hearing because he overslept. The hearing was yet another continuation for a stupid thing him and his buddies did 6 months earlier. They went joy riding on a zamboni and it damaged the skating rink floor. FYI we are still traveling back to Niagara Falls NY about every 6 weeks for these hearings.</p><p></p><p>See Janet, I know what it is like to have a son locked up. While he was there I deposited money one time so that he could get some toiletries. I visited once and heard tough guy talk and left early. Once. Phone calls, yeah they were expensive and they were collect. He was permitted to call me, collect, once a week. Why should I foot the bill for his mistakes? Same reason why I didn't post bail. I'm tired of paying for his mistakes.</p><p></p><p>Call me cold if you like I don't care. But don't imply that I don't know what its like to have a son in jail because I'm not sympathetic to the situation your son got himself into.</p><p></p><p>No one ever died of starvation in jail. Sorry if he's not getting his stuffed peppers and nice sandwiches like he likes. He gets what they serve him, he has the choice to eat it or not. Again, his choice to eat or be hungry. Surely you don't expect them to provide a banquet. I'm glad my tax dollars don't pay for steak and eggs (figuratively speaking).</p><p></p><p>Jail as I understand it is not there to help people. It is there to punish people. Granted it would be nice if they were able to rehab but again, who pays for that? I don't want to pay for someone elses mistakes.</p><p></p><p>Janet, if he doesn't learn like he hasn't so far, what do you think will teach him a lesson? You think he should be removed from society, what do you propose be done and again, who's to pay for it?</p><p></p><p>Sorry if my words are harsh but they come from someone who can empathize with you.</p><p></p><p>I do have compassion but it is not for Ant. My compassion is for you and what you are going thru. If I ever had the chance to meet you I'd love to buy you a cup of coffee or something harder and give you a shoulder to cry on. But I won't feel sorry for Ants plight nor will I feel pity.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Stressed2theHilt, post: 91273, member: 1409"] [B] [/B] Dear Janet, I drive thru western Pennsylvania all the time so yes he very well may have been any number of the drunk drivers I've call 911 over. All of my family lives in western Pennsylvania and drive the roads more often than I do. That qualifies me to say that Ants drunk driving jeopardized my family. Ant is not the only son to cause his mother much pain. My son spent 6 weeks locked up in Niagara County Jail in NY (he was 16) but unlike Ant, he was in there for something really stupid. He was locked up for 6 weeks for missing a hearing because he overslept. The hearing was yet another continuation for a stupid thing him and his buddies did 6 months earlier. They went joy riding on a zamboni and it damaged the skating rink floor. FYI we are still traveling back to Niagara Falls NY about every 6 weeks for these hearings. See Janet, I know what it is like to have a son locked up. While he was there I deposited money one time so that he could get some toiletries. I visited once and heard tough guy talk and left early. Once. Phone calls, yeah they were expensive and they were collect. He was permitted to call me, collect, once a week. Why should I foot the bill for his mistakes? Same reason why I didn't post bail. I'm tired of paying for his mistakes. Call me cold if you like I don't care. But don't imply that I don't know what its like to have a son in jail because I'm not sympathetic to the situation your son got himself into. No one ever died of starvation in jail. Sorry if he's not getting his stuffed peppers and nice sandwiches like he likes. He gets what they serve him, he has the choice to eat it or not. Again, his choice to eat or be hungry. Surely you don't expect them to provide a banquet. I'm glad my tax dollars don't pay for steak and eggs (figuratively speaking). Jail as I understand it is not there to help people. It is there to punish people. Granted it would be nice if they were able to rehab but again, who pays for that? I don't want to pay for someone elses mistakes. Janet, if he doesn't learn like he hasn't so far, what do you think will teach him a lesson? You think he should be removed from society, what do you propose be done and again, who's to pay for it? Sorry if my words are harsh but they come from someone who can empathize with you. I do have compassion but it is not for Ant. My compassion is for you and what you are going thru. If I ever had the chance to meet you I'd love to buy you a cup of coffee or something harder and give you a shoulder to cry on. But I won't feel sorry for Ants plight nor will I feel pity. [/QUOTE]
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