Most of you here know that our adopted granddaughter who's 22 and her son that is two have been living with us this year. Earlier today, she was getting ready for work and he went to her room and I was trying to get him ready to leave in the car with us. I went into the room to get him and he was in her closet and when I went to pick him up I saw my small Swiss Army knife on the floor of her closet with the blade out. I was upset because it was where he could have picked it up.
But her reaction to that made me wonder if it was used with drugs. She was very defensive about having it and said she probably used it to open mail. This is a very small probably 2 in long knife I bought as a souvenir in Switzerland about 20 years ago. The knife blade is probably only about an inch and a half long. It was probably in some of my belongings in that room that she moved back into when she moved home. There was also a basket on the floor that had some small bottles of perfume, three or four matchbooks and a few miscellaneous items.
I know she's not thrilled living with us. But I don't think she could cope caring for her son by herself. She is working about 5 days a week for six or seven hour shifts. But she seems too tired to spend much time interacting with him. She usually works from 4:00 p.m. to 11:00 p.m. two or three times a week and other shifts she may get off by 6:00 or 8:00 p.m. many times she gets a ride home from work and doesn't come home till the next morning. She only spends one or two hours a day with her son and even then those are not always positive experiences for him. Today she was too tired to have much patience with him.
Next week she has her first appointment for a 10-week attachment parenting class. This is something I have been pushing for for quite some time after I heard about it. A therapist comes to your home 1 hour a week for 10 weeks and helps parents learn attachment parenting skills. To be honest, it has been fairly chaotic since her son was born. The times when the baby's father was with her was abusive. They were evicted from their low-income apartment because of the way the apartment was kept and how disruptive they were to their neighbors with their arguing. She and the baby's father have not been together since the first of the year and he has reunited with his estranged wife who is now expecting.
After she moved back here it was rough. I have posted about it before. Anyway...if anyone knows why a small knife would be in a closet let me know. Maybe I am jumping to the wrong conclusion... but maybe not. Newksm
But her reaction to that made me wonder if it was used with drugs. She was very defensive about having it and said she probably used it to open mail. This is a very small probably 2 in long knife I bought as a souvenir in Switzerland about 20 years ago. The knife blade is probably only about an inch and a half long. It was probably in some of my belongings in that room that she moved back into when she moved home. There was also a basket on the floor that had some small bottles of perfume, three or four matchbooks and a few miscellaneous items.
I know she's not thrilled living with us. But I don't think she could cope caring for her son by herself. She is working about 5 days a week for six or seven hour shifts. But she seems too tired to spend much time interacting with him. She usually works from 4:00 p.m. to 11:00 p.m. two or three times a week and other shifts she may get off by 6:00 or 8:00 p.m. many times she gets a ride home from work and doesn't come home till the next morning. She only spends one or two hours a day with her son and even then those are not always positive experiences for him. Today she was too tired to have much patience with him.
Next week she has her first appointment for a 10-week attachment parenting class. This is something I have been pushing for for quite some time after I heard about it. A therapist comes to your home 1 hour a week for 10 weeks and helps parents learn attachment parenting skills. To be honest, it has been fairly chaotic since her son was born. The times when the baby's father was with her was abusive. They were evicted from their low-income apartment because of the way the apartment was kept and how disruptive they were to their neighbors with their arguing. She and the baby's father have not been together since the first of the year and he has reunited with his estranged wife who is now expecting.
After she moved back here it was rough. I have posted about it before. Anyway...if anyone knows why a small knife would be in a closet let me know. Maybe I am jumping to the wrong conclusion... but maybe not. Newksm