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<blockquote data-quote="nvts" data-source="post: 124152" data-attributes="member: 3814"><p>Have you tried the "Explosive Child" by Ross Greene?</p><p> </p><p>Try working it out with her. Try the phrase "what can we do that will make us both a little bit happy?"</p><p> </p><p>For example: "I'm not going to school and you can't make me". Well, we all know that you can make her (so does she! lol!). Instead of it turning adversarial try validating her feelings. "I know, I hate getting out of a nice warm bed, and I know that you haven't been happy with school. However, I have my job which is "insert whateveryou do here" and you have your job which is to go to school to learn cool new things so that YOU can teach them to ME!". </p><p> </p><p>NEXT: "Now, what can we do that will make us BOTH a little bit happy?".</p><p> </p><p>If she can't come up with something, give her suggestions. "I know, you go to school, I go to work, and then you and I will have some time alone when I get home so that you can teach ME all of the cool stuff that you learned today!" Be enthusiastic! If she comes up with "how about we paint our nails, try a new hair style or something else", go for it! What you want her to do is start giving YOU ideas so that she can work out better things for herself.</p><p> </p><p>Give it a shot, the worst thing that can happen is going back to the normal routine!</p><p> </p><p>Good luck! (Just to let you know, my nine year old is now using this tactic on ME! lol! )</p><p> </p><p>Beth</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="nvts, post: 124152, member: 3814"] Have you tried the "Explosive Child" by Ross Greene? Try working it out with her. Try the phrase "what can we do that will make us both a little bit happy?" For example: "I'm not going to school and you can't make me". Well, we all know that you can make her (so does she! lol!). Instead of it turning adversarial try validating her feelings. "I know, I hate getting out of a nice warm bed, and I know that you haven't been happy with school. However, I have my job which is "insert whateveryou do here" and you have your job which is to go to school to learn cool new things so that YOU can teach them to ME!". NEXT: "Now, what can we do that will make us BOTH a little bit happy?". If she can't come up with something, give her suggestions. "I know, you go to school, I go to work, and then you and I will have some time alone when I get home so that you can teach ME all of the cool stuff that you learned today!" Be enthusiastic! If she comes up with "how about we paint our nails, try a new hair style or something else", go for it! What you want her to do is start giving YOU ideas so that she can work out better things for herself. Give it a shot, the worst thing that can happen is going back to the normal routine! Good luck! (Just to let you know, my nine year old is now using this tactic on ME! lol! ) Beth [/QUOTE]
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