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Any suggestions for ODD - diet, medications, or transitioning from biodad's to home?
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<blockquote data-quote="Charmedpea" data-source="post: 294311" data-attributes="member: 5404"><p>Hi,</p><p> </p><p> I was told over a year ago my daugther has odd, adhd, adjustment disorder with-depressional mood.</p><p> </p><p>We had her on concerta for a while that did help her focus for home instruction with-school ended up finishing the year with a 3.80 gpa. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /></p><p> </p><p>I havent tried the food thing diet. She just turned 15yrs. We did start a crisis intervention from mst. They come to the house 2 times a week for hour in a half. She doesnt like them.. <img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite8" alt=":D" title="Big Grin :D" loading="lazy" data-shortname=":D" /> They are on call 24/7. </p><p>Things I have to work on.</p><p>dont engage</p><p>when & then (When you clean the bathroom THEN you can go to balloon fest.</p><p>Button pushing (she is very good at that is where I dont engage.) </p><p>engaging feeds the monster. Stop feeding the monster. (dont engage).</p><p>dont justify myself.</p><p> </p><p>One Liners to use:</p><p>Kids seem to have a repertoire of "hooks" they use to get their parents to argue with them. Here are some Love and Logic One-Liners that will get parents off the hook and cause children to do more of the thinking.</p><p> </p><p>Remember: The "one-liners" are only effective when said with genuine compassion and understanding. These are never intended to be flippant remarks that discount the feelings of the child. If an adult uses these responses to try to get the better of a child, the problem will only become worse. The adults own attitude at these times is crucial to success.</p><ul> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">"Probably so."</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">"I know."</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">"Nice try."</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">"I bet it feels that way."</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">"What do you think youre going to do."</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">"I dont know. What do you think?"</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">"Bummer. How sad."</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">"Thanks for sharing that."</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">"Dont worry about it now."</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">"Thats an option."</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">"I bet thats true."</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">"Maybe youll like what we have for the next meal better."</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">"What do you think I think about that?"</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">"Im not sure how to react to that. Ill have to get back to you on it."</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">"Ill let you know what will work for me."</li> <li data-xf-list-type="ul">"Ill love you wherever you live."</li> </ul><p><strong><span style="font-size: 10px">Love & Logic</span></strong></p><p></p><p>here is a helpful link to love and logic. I just started reading threw some of it. </p><p> </p><p><a href="http://www.loveandlogic.com/articles.html#teens" target="_blank">http://www.loveandlogic.com/articles.html#teens</a></p><p> </p><p>for today WHEN & THEN worked. </p><p>There were many times I didnt think hubby of almost 19yrs we would still be married. she has pit us against each other so many times over the last 3 years. We have 3 years left till she is 18 and hopefully get her turned around to where she is a productive member of the community. And out of the court system. </p><p> </p><p>I have to remember she is not personaly attacking me. she is trying to get her way and get me to bite her hook. My husband has his one liner to get me to stop engaging and my son has his. If either of them catch me engaging with her that is there way of stopping me. </p><p> </p><p>And have a safety plan in place incase she tries to overdose again or hurt herself or us. </p><p> </p><p>In order for anything to work you need help from everyone especially her biodad. He needs to be on board otherwise all your efforts will be down the toliet.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Charmedpea, post: 294311, member: 5404"] Hi, I was told over a year ago my daugther has odd, adhd, adjustment disorder with-depressional mood. We had her on concerta for a while that did help her focus for home instruction with-school ended up finishing the year with a 3.80 gpa. :winking: I havent tried the food thing diet. She just turned 15yrs. We did start a crisis intervention from mst. They come to the house 2 times a week for hour in a half. She doesnt like them.. :happy: They are on call 24/7. Things I have to work on. dont engage when & then (When you clean the bathroom THEN you can go to balloon fest. Button pushing (she is very good at that is where I dont engage.) engaging feeds the monster. Stop feeding the monster. (dont engage). dont justify myself. One Liners to use: Kids seem to have a repertoire of "hooks" they use to get their parents to argue with them. Here are some Love and Logic One-Liners that will get parents off the hook and cause children to do more of the thinking. Remember: The "one-liners" are only effective when said with genuine compassion and understanding. These are never intended to be flippant remarks that discount the feelings of the child. If an adult uses these responses to try to get the better of a child, the problem will only become worse. The adults own attitude at these times is crucial to success. [LIST] [*]"Probably so." [*]"I know." [*]"Nice try." [*]"I bet it feels that way." [*]"What do you think youre going to do." [*]"I dont know. What do you think?" [*]"Bummer. How sad." [*]"Thanks for sharing that." [*]"Dont worry about it now." [*]"Thats an option." [*]"I bet thats true." [*]"Maybe youll like what we have for the next meal better." [*]"What do you think I think about that?" [*]"Im not sure how to react to that. Ill have to get back to you on it." [*]"Ill let you know what will work for me." [*]"Ill love you wherever you live." [/LIST][B][SIZE=2]Love & Logic[/SIZE][/B] here is a helpful link to love and logic. I just started reading threw some of it. [URL]http://www.loveandlogic.com/articles.html#teens[/URL] for today WHEN & THEN worked. There were many times I didnt think hubby of almost 19yrs we would still be married. she has pit us against each other so many times over the last 3 years. We have 3 years left till she is 18 and hopefully get her turned around to where she is a productive member of the community. And out of the court system. I have to remember she is not personaly attacking me. she is trying to get her way and get me to bite her hook. My husband has his one liner to get me to stop engaging and my son has his. If either of them catch me engaging with her that is there way of stopping me. And have a safety plan in place incase she tries to overdose again or hurt herself or us. In order for anything to work you need help from everyone especially her biodad. He needs to be on board otherwise all your efforts will be down the toliet. [/QUOTE]
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