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<blockquote data-quote="Shari" data-source="post: 161047" data-attributes="member: 1848"><p><span style="font-family: 'Helv'"><span style="font-size: 10px">Thanks for the suggestions. I guess we'll have a chat next week, and I have some money put back to take her shopping...I'll use your suggestions. We've been trying to encourage portion control (she'll eat as much as husband, and eats FAST) and healthy eating without getting into this but she just keeps getting bigger and bigger. The poor kid has stretch marks.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Helv'"><span style="font-size: 10px">***</span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Helv'"><span style="font-size: 10px">I realize this is somewhat normal for kids this age, but this is beyond normal. When she was 7-8, she went from a size 6x to a 14 in under a year, and she didn't grow much in height. Her waist is over 35" (her behind and hips and chest are much smaller). She has visible cellulite that most women MY age start fighting. Her belly lops a good 3" over the top of her pants. She is between the 50th and 75th percentile for her height/age, and way off the charts with her weight. Unlike wee difficult child, who is heavily muscled, easy child can barely walk 400 yards without getting out of breath; its not a muscle-mass issue. She struggles to pour milk from a gallon jug. She has a hard time getting up off the floor. She can't ride her bike with difficult child cause she cant keep up. She has backaches. She's 11.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Helv'"><span style="font-size: 10px">***</span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Helv'"><span style="font-size: 10px">It makes me sad for her because childhood obesity is linked to so many life-long struggles. Her mom is a huge, unhealthy, unhappy woman. She started having back pain in her 20's due to her weight. And in my opinion, she is a monster for sitting by idely watching her daughter become the same. (I have offered to pay for and take easy child to dance class, sports, ANYTHING to get her active, and her mom refuses because it would mean extra time with me and husband). husband says easy child 2 was involved in soccer until they split; then mom ordered grandma to stop taking easy child; husband usually went to practices and games, so husband thinks it was a further attempt to keep him from seeing easy child at all; another one that easy child is paying for.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Helv'"><span style="font-size: 10px">***</span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Helv'"><span style="font-size: 10px">As for wee difficult child...I agree with all that husband should just say "yes, my son", but I also understand the hesitation. He never wants bio dad to be able to say he kept difficult child from him in any way. I felt the same way with difficult child 1 when people would ask me that were natives of this small town and likely knew his bio parents. I didn't want to say "this is my son" and have it get back to the bio's that I said that (and it happened a couple of times). They both were very territorial of a boy they wanted nothing to do with...which I never understood (to this day, DEX's online profiles all say, first and foremost, his favorite pasttime is spending time with his boys - the last time he spent time with wee difficult child was Mother's Day 2003 and I don't think he even knows where difficult child 1 is...) - so I always made sure to clarify if I thought there was a way it might get back to the bio's, but the clarification was never with difficult child around.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Helv'"><span style="font-size: 10px">***</span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Helv'"><span style="font-size: 10px">And there's no doubt husband is proud to be "dad". I was afraid he wouldn't be able to get thru the doorways in our house when difficult child started that, cause husband's head was so big...</span></span></p><p><span style="font-family: 'Helv'"><span style="font-size: 10px"></span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Shari, post: 161047, member: 1848"] [FONT=Helv][SIZE=2]Thanks for the suggestions. I guess we'll have a chat next week, and I have some money put back to take her shopping...I'll use your suggestions. We've been trying to encourage portion control (she'll eat as much as husband, and eats FAST) and healthy eating without getting into this but she just keeps getting bigger and bigger. The poor kid has stretch marks. *** I realize this is somewhat normal for kids this age, but this is beyond normal. When she was 7-8, she went from a size 6x to a 14 in under a year, and she didn't grow much in height. Her waist is over 35" (her behind and hips and chest are much smaller). She has visible cellulite that most women MY age start fighting. Her belly lops a good 3" over the top of her pants. She is between the 50th and 75th percentile for her height/age, and way off the charts with her weight. Unlike wee difficult child, who is heavily muscled, easy child can barely walk 400 yards without getting out of breath; its not a muscle-mass issue. She struggles to pour milk from a gallon jug. She has a hard time getting up off the floor. She can't ride her bike with difficult child cause she cant keep up. She has backaches. She's 11. *** It makes me sad for her because childhood obesity is linked to so many life-long struggles. Her mom is a huge, unhealthy, unhappy woman. She started having back pain in her 20's due to her weight. And in my opinion, she is a monster for sitting by idely watching her daughter become the same. (I have offered to pay for and take easy child to dance class, sports, ANYTHING to get her active, and her mom refuses because it would mean extra time with me and husband). husband says easy child 2 was involved in soccer until they split; then mom ordered grandma to stop taking easy child; husband usually went to practices and games, so husband thinks it was a further attempt to keep him from seeing easy child at all; another one that easy child is paying for. *** As for wee difficult child...I agree with all that husband should just say "yes, my son", but I also understand the hesitation. He never wants bio dad to be able to say he kept difficult child from him in any way. I felt the same way with difficult child 1 when people would ask me that were natives of this small town and likely knew his bio parents. I didn't want to say "this is my son" and have it get back to the bio's that I said that (and it happened a couple of times). They both were very territorial of a boy they wanted nothing to do with...which I never understood (to this day, DEX's online profiles all say, first and foremost, his favorite pasttime is spending time with his boys - the last time he spent time with wee difficult child was Mother's Day 2003 and I don't think he even knows where difficult child 1 is...) - so I always made sure to clarify if I thought there was a way it might get back to the bio's, but the clarification was never with difficult child around. *** And there's no doubt husband is proud to be "dad". I was afraid he wouldn't be able to get thru the doorways in our house when difficult child started that, cause husband's head was so big... [/SIZE][/FONT] [/QUOTE]
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