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<blockquote data-quote="TerryJ2" data-source="post: 606328" data-attributes="member: 3419"><p>I'd not worry about whether it's Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) or defiance or whatever and just focus on what to do about it. Our therapist is a behaviorist, so we've had good luck with-that approach.</p><p>I would get him to clean up whatever he does--urine, fecal material, etc. Hand him rubber gloves, a disposable, cheap plastic grocery bag, the right cleaning materials (you may want to put them in tiny containers, because if he's like my son, he'll dump the entire container on the spot) and calmly tell him to clean it up.</p><p>He will have a meltdown but he's got to clean it up before he can 1) eat; 2) play video games; 3) do whatever it is he likes to do.</p><p>Once he is in the habit of cleaning it up, he will slowly realize that he's not punishing you, because YOU are not the one reacting and YOU are not the one cleaning it up. </p><p>I think it will take several weeks to get into that routine. He's going to balk and refuse. You've got to have a lot of patience and a lot of follow-through. It will be exhausting but you can do it. Eventually, he'll get the fact that you are not going to back down, that it is not getting him what he wants, and that there is a direct cause and effect.</p><p>Also, I would reward him when he yells at you when he's mad, and uses words. "Remember when you yelled this morning and you used words and didn't hit, and didn't poop? I am very proud of how you handled that. You are really growing into a young man. We all get mad but not everyone uses words as clearly as you do to express their anger."</p><p>You'll want to pretend you're reading a movie script when you say that, because it will feel so fake, rolf!</p><p>Good luck!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="TerryJ2, post: 606328, member: 3419"] I'd not worry about whether it's Reactive Attachment Disorder (RAD) or defiance or whatever and just focus on what to do about it. Our therapist is a behaviorist, so we've had good luck with-that approach. I would get him to clean up whatever he does--urine, fecal material, etc. Hand him rubber gloves, a disposable, cheap plastic grocery bag, the right cleaning materials (you may want to put them in tiny containers, because if he's like my son, he'll dump the entire container on the spot) and calmly tell him to clean it up. He will have a meltdown but he's got to clean it up before he can 1) eat; 2) play video games; 3) do whatever it is he likes to do. Once he is in the habit of cleaning it up, he will slowly realize that he's not punishing you, because YOU are not the one reacting and YOU are not the one cleaning it up. I think it will take several weeks to get into that routine. He's going to balk and refuse. You've got to have a lot of patience and a lot of follow-through. It will be exhausting but you can do it. Eventually, he'll get the fact that you are not going to back down, that it is not getting him what he wants, and that there is a direct cause and effect. Also, I would reward him when he yells at you when he's mad, and uses words. "Remember when you yelled this morning and you used words and didn't hit, and didn't poop? I am very proud of how you handled that. You are really growing into a young man. We all get mad but not everyone uses words as clearly as you do to express their anger." You'll want to pretend you're reading a movie script when you say that, because it will feel so fake, rolf! Good luck! [/QUOTE]
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