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<blockquote data-quote="Mattsmom277" data-source="post: 352237" data-attributes="member: 4264"><p>Thanks Trinity! I'm going to bookmark that link as well.</p><p></p><p>We've been practicing and mastering the "sorry, we just aren't in any position to help right now" line, and the "We've got a family of 4 ourselves and with s/o unemployed and retraining right now we really aren't in a position to be asked to help others, we're working to avoid seeking help for ourselves" (When she's looking for cash). We've gotten good at it and happy to say its helping to minimize the attempts to borrow. As of Christmas, we were truly fed up. She knows our finances and that we are frugal, without a single debt (no car payments, no credit cards or loans, zero debt). She knows basically that due to prudent thinking when we got together, we are in a position to survive even during his retraining/unemployment. It has lead her to expect us to always be able to loan her some, she emphasizes always its just a small amount to get them through to her next pay. Grr! Last time, we gave her a line like I said above. She had said her husband had no $ for gas to get to his job. After she left we contacted her husband, asked him to keep it between us (don't tell her) and asked if he really had no gas $ (they have a very good income, in the 6 figures). He really had none, she'd blown through his pay by paying iou's from the previous couple weeks. We sent him gas money to get him through without her knowing. If she knew she'd simply use this all the time if you Know what I mean?. </p><p></p><p>We're working on how to handle her popping over without calling (She never calls). Last week s/o answered and didn't open wide enough for her to walk inside. Just said you should have called because its a bad time for us right now. Give us a call in a couple days and we'll make plans. She was stumped. (I was proud of my s/o!!!)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Mattsmom277, post: 352237, member: 4264"] Thanks Trinity! I'm going to bookmark that link as well. We've been practicing and mastering the "sorry, we just aren't in any position to help right now" line, and the "We've got a family of 4 ourselves and with s/o unemployed and retraining right now we really aren't in a position to be asked to help others, we're working to avoid seeking help for ourselves" (When she's looking for cash). We've gotten good at it and happy to say its helping to minimize the attempts to borrow. As of Christmas, we were truly fed up. She knows our finances and that we are frugal, without a single debt (no car payments, no credit cards or loans, zero debt). She knows basically that due to prudent thinking when we got together, we are in a position to survive even during his retraining/unemployment. It has lead her to expect us to always be able to loan her some, she emphasizes always its just a small amount to get them through to her next pay. Grr! Last time, we gave her a line like I said above. She had said her husband had no $ for gas to get to his job. After she left we contacted her husband, asked him to keep it between us (don't tell her) and asked if he really had no gas $ (they have a very good income, in the 6 figures). He really had none, she'd blown through his pay by paying iou's from the previous couple weeks. We sent him gas money to get him through without her knowing. If she knew she'd simply use this all the time if you Know what I mean?. We're working on how to handle her popping over without calling (She never calls). Last week s/o answered and didn't open wide enough for her to walk inside. Just said you should have called because its a bad time for us right now. Give us a call in a couple days and we'll make plans. She was stumped. (I was proud of my s/o!!!) [/QUOTE]
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