greenrene
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This site has been so helpful to me in not only dealing with my own difficult child, but also understanding more about my own mother, who would most definitely be classified as a difficult child. Possibly an extreme difficult child.
Her birth was traumatic - forceps were used, and she was blue when she emerged. I heard bits and pieces about her childhood from my grandparents but not much, enough to know that she was a difficult child in a time/place where it was very much misunderstood.
She has never been officially diagnosed, but she has issues with depression, anxiety, narcissistic tendences, and bipolar tendencies. All that made for quite the upbringing for yours truly. She and I never truly bonded, and that has affected me in more ways than I care to really think about. She was verbally abusive and downright cruel at times to my younger sister and me. My father was/is loving and kind and always said that my mother couldn't control her temper, that she didn't really mean it when she cursed us out, said she hated us, and called us good-for-nothings. I didn't understand it at the time (what child can?), but I'm understanding more now that I'm grown. Lately I've been reading some about how attachment issues can affect a person's adult life. Wow. I'm finally starting to understand some of my own hangups and issues. I also have a wonderful mother figure in my mother in law, and I'm sloooooooooowly healing from lifelong wounds.
Add to the mix the fact that I grew up in a church that has one foot in the cult category... yeah. Mother issues and God issues. That's me.
Anyone else raised by a difficult child?
Her birth was traumatic - forceps were used, and she was blue when she emerged. I heard bits and pieces about her childhood from my grandparents but not much, enough to know that she was a difficult child in a time/place where it was very much misunderstood.
She has never been officially diagnosed, but she has issues with depression, anxiety, narcissistic tendences, and bipolar tendencies. All that made for quite the upbringing for yours truly. She and I never truly bonded, and that has affected me in more ways than I care to really think about. She was verbally abusive and downright cruel at times to my younger sister and me. My father was/is loving and kind and always said that my mother couldn't control her temper, that she didn't really mean it when she cursed us out, said she hated us, and called us good-for-nothings. I didn't understand it at the time (what child can?), but I'm understanding more now that I'm grown. Lately I've been reading some about how attachment issues can affect a person's adult life. Wow. I'm finally starting to understand some of my own hangups and issues. I also have a wonderful mother figure in my mother in law, and I'm sloooooooooowly healing from lifelong wounds.
Add to the mix the fact that I grew up in a church that has one foot in the cult category... yeah. Mother issues and God issues. That's me.
Anyone else raised by a difficult child?
