My difficult child has always had "issues" with moving his bowels. When he was very young & just potty trained all the way up until about 1 or 2 yrs ago he held it & held it for so long that he would constantly go in his underwear. Like, as he was running to the bathroom at the very last second. Every single pair of underwear he has has poop on them when I get his dirty laundry. I am constantly finding "dirty" underwear hidden around the house. Even under his brothers bed, which confuses me so much because difficult child KNOWS if big bro finds them he's going to freak out. At this point, he seems to go on a more regular basis & I am not finding an entire bowel movement in his underwear but there is always some there. Now he's got this new habit... I keep finding poop wiped on things in the house. His bed, his window sill, the couch. Little pieces of poop all over the floor in his bedroom. Last week my SO was plunging the shower drain because it was clogged & guess what was clogging it??? difficult child's father is completely in denial about his problems. Bio dad's new wife called me & told me how disgusting difficult child is & he is "way to old to be doing things like that" I wont repeat what I said to her but my point is, other people are noticing it & nothing I say makes him stop. I ask him to try really hard to stop doing it & he acts like its not him????? He constantly smells like poop & even kids at school have said things. Help!!!