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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 185048" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>We handle it in different ways. It wasn't quite that severe for us, although it was different with each kid (the three younger ones). We got the "wiping soiled fingers on the wall/clothes/etc" routine so I made them get a scrubbing brush and a bucket of soapy water and scrub everything clean. When they said, "But I didn't do it," I replied, "Neither did I - so why should I have to be always the one cleaning it off? In this house, we ALL take turns."</p><p></p><p>If the kid smelt poopy, they got washed. By me. To billy-oh with how old they were, they had to deal with me, and them, in the shower getting hosed.</p><p>We have a hand-held shower which came in very handy for this - the kid would be put in the shower recess fully dressed then asked to strip. Everything. We'd get the water flowing. Sometimes I'd do that before they got in, then turn it off while they undressed. They couldn't stall, because the water in the pipes would chill off again quickly and my getting the warm water trough would be a wasted effort if they delayed to argue about it.</p><p></p><p>Then once they were stripped I would throw their clothes into the (empty) bathtub and then use the shower hose to literally hose them down. Once they were visibly clean I would leave them to finish washing properly, with soap, while I took the dirty clothes to the laundry. I found that even if just the underpants had poop on them I still needed to wash everything, because the smell would permeate everything. And the big reward/payoff for getting clean was to feel clean and smell clean, immediately. They needed this payoff so they could learn the difference between being smelly (and uncomfortable, hopefully) and smelling clean and feeling fresh.</p><p></p><p>I had no qualms about grabbing a kid and peering down the back of his pants if I thought I smelt something. I had a feral cat once that used to sit under cars with oil leaks - I had to bathe that cat frequently, to get the sump oil out of his fur. And if I could convince a vicious feral cat that he had no choice but to submit to my bathing him, then no mere kid was ever going to stop me.</p><p></p><p>However, I didn't use shame at all. I just made it clear that I wanted the smell gone. I would try to engage the kid in helping me with the laundry, because ALL kids should learn how to use a washing machine anyway. And if a kid came home from football covered in mud, I would do the same thing - throw the kid in the shower recess clothed, tell him to strip, help him bathe and then get the kid to help me wash the clothes since they would be HIS clothes after all. Any person in the house whose clothing makes up the majority of the load, gets to wash that load. I started them from 2 years old.</p><p></p><p>When he was older I could trust difficult child 1 to be wiping OK and not leaving skid marks, but he still stank. It turned out to be him forgetting it was time to go. All I had to do was say, "There is an air about you, son. When did you last 'spend a penny'? If you can't remember how many days, then get yourself a good book and take yourself to the 'reading room' right now."</p><p></p><p>We also keep a box of moist baby wipes by the toilet. They're not flushable for us so we also have a bin by the toilet for the soiled wipes to go. Because female things also go in those bins, emptying the bins each week (or more often) tends to be a job done by the females in the household. I keep a spare unopened packet in the bathroom cabinet and whoever opens that packet to replace an empty one in the loo has to put them on the shopping list. Plus, I keep tabs on them and I check.</p><p></p><p>As it turns out, those wipes come in handy for other things. difficult child 1 gets home from a dusty day at work and uses a baby wipe to clean the grime off his face. easy child 2/difficult child 2 swears by them for removing waterproof mascara. And so on.</p><p></p><p>It's no good trying to pretend there's not a problem - that is what HE is doing. All you're doing is enabling him. But you do need to be matter-of-fact about it and avoid showing disgust or making a big fuss. If he had been making himself a Vegemite sandwich in the kitchen and had left butter and Vegemite smears on the kitchen bench, you'd call him back to make him clean up after himself, wouldn't you?</p><p></p><p>This should be handled with the same attitude. Plus, there is the hygiene issue but frankly, raw chicken is more dangerous to your health. Mind you, this smells a lot worse than raw chicken!</p><p></p><p>There will be others with more advice - as I said, it wasn't too bad for us. My kids were moderately compliant, just unaware.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 185048, member: 1991"] We handle it in different ways. It wasn't quite that severe for us, although it was different with each kid (the three younger ones). We got the "wiping soiled fingers on the wall/clothes/etc" routine so I made them get a scrubbing brush and a bucket of soapy water and scrub everything clean. When they said, "But I didn't do it," I replied, "Neither did I - so why should I have to be always the one cleaning it off? In this house, we ALL take turns." If the kid smelt poopy, they got washed. By me. To billy-oh with how old they were, they had to deal with me, and them, in the shower getting hosed. We have a hand-held shower which came in very handy for this - the kid would be put in the shower recess fully dressed then asked to strip. Everything. We'd get the water flowing. Sometimes I'd do that before they got in, then turn it off while they undressed. They couldn't stall, because the water in the pipes would chill off again quickly and my getting the warm water trough would be a wasted effort if they delayed to argue about it. Then once they were stripped I would throw their clothes into the (empty) bathtub and then use the shower hose to literally hose them down. Once they were visibly clean I would leave them to finish washing properly, with soap, while I took the dirty clothes to the laundry. I found that even if just the underpants had poop on them I still needed to wash everything, because the smell would permeate everything. And the big reward/payoff for getting clean was to feel clean and smell clean, immediately. They needed this payoff so they could learn the difference between being smelly (and uncomfortable, hopefully) and smelling clean and feeling fresh. I had no qualms about grabbing a kid and peering down the back of his pants if I thought I smelt something. I had a feral cat once that used to sit under cars with oil leaks - I had to bathe that cat frequently, to get the sump oil out of his fur. And if I could convince a vicious feral cat that he had no choice but to submit to my bathing him, then no mere kid was ever going to stop me. However, I didn't use shame at all. I just made it clear that I wanted the smell gone. I would try to engage the kid in helping me with the laundry, because ALL kids should learn how to use a washing machine anyway. And if a kid came home from football covered in mud, I would do the same thing - throw the kid in the shower recess clothed, tell him to strip, help him bathe and then get the kid to help me wash the clothes since they would be HIS clothes after all. Any person in the house whose clothing makes up the majority of the load, gets to wash that load. I started them from 2 years old. When he was older I could trust difficult child 1 to be wiping OK and not leaving skid marks, but he still stank. It turned out to be him forgetting it was time to go. All I had to do was say, "There is an air about you, son. When did you last 'spend a penny'? If you can't remember how many days, then get yourself a good book and take yourself to the 'reading room' right now." We also keep a box of moist baby wipes by the toilet. They're not flushable for us so we also have a bin by the toilet for the soiled wipes to go. Because female things also go in those bins, emptying the bins each week (or more often) tends to be a job done by the females in the household. I keep a spare unopened packet in the bathroom cabinet and whoever opens that packet to replace an empty one in the loo has to put them on the shopping list. Plus, I keep tabs on them and I check. As it turns out, those wipes come in handy for other things. difficult child 1 gets home from a dusty day at work and uses a baby wipe to clean the grime off his face. easy child 2/difficult child 2 swears by them for removing waterproof mascara. And so on. It's no good trying to pretend there's not a problem - that is what HE is doing. All you're doing is enabling him. But you do need to be matter-of-fact about it and avoid showing disgust or making a big fuss. If he had been making himself a Vegemite sandwich in the kitchen and had left butter and Vegemite smears on the kitchen bench, you'd call him back to make him clean up after himself, wouldn't you? This should be handled with the same attitude. Plus, there is the hygiene issue but frankly, raw chicken is more dangerous to your health. Mind you, this smells a lot worse than raw chicken! There will be others with more advice - as I said, it wasn't too bad for us. My kids were moderately compliant, just unaware. Marg [/QUOTE]
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