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<blockquote data-quote="SearchingForRainbows" data-source="post: 93129" data-attributes="member: 3388"><p>Ok, I spent twenty minutes pouring my heart out only to be interrupted by the phone. When I got back here, I must have hit the wrong button and now my thoughts are floating somewhere in cyberspace...</p><p></p><p>Anyway, I spent all night thinking about this post. A few people said things that stuck in my mind... Sue said that taking care of difficult children is like "Chinese water torture." I totally agree!!! Problem after problem, etc., crisis after crisis, etc., definitely takes its toll. Emotionally I've changed. I used to be a very outgoing person. Now, I crave SILENCE!!! I just find myself wanting to be left alone way too much. I've become hardened and detached from my difficult children. I hate to admit this but lots of the things I do for my difficult children are done only out of my extreme sense of responsibility and out of GUILT. GUILT - I hate this word!!!</p><p></p><p>WeepingWillow said that "living in a cesspool of negativity takes its toll no matter how much you might want it not to." She went on to talk about how it is impossible for us to put ourselves first. She compared taking care of difficult children to an Iraq soldier trying to take a "day off" from battle when in the middle of a war zone. This is so TRUE!!! </p><p></p><p>A very minor example of this but one that has bothered me for a long time happened to me last winter. I had the flu and was so weak, sick, and exhausted that I had to set my alarm clock so I could wake up and take care of my difficult children (then ages 14 and 15). :grrr: :grrr: </p><p></p><p>The STRESS we deal with on a daily basis would probably be unbelievable to those without difficult children. Another very minor example- Remember that phone call that interrupted my train of thought? Well, that was someone from a local hospital reminding me of difficult child 2's evaluation on Monday. She went on to say that they still don't have the referral. I've spent the last month trying to make sure that the referral would be there and that things would go smoothly. :grrr: Now, I have to spend part of this morning trying to get through to a very busy pedi's office, explaining the situation for the zillionth time, and hoping someone will get this mess straightened out before Monday morning... Financially, my difficult children have caused havoc!!! (difficult child 1's crisis from two weeks ago has cost us $315 ($100 copay for emergency room, $140 copay for 4 extra visits to psychiatrist and tdocs, and $75 copay for medication so far...)</p><p></p><p>Sometimes I just feel like my heart is breaking...I always feel stressed out. I'm pretty good at hiding it though. I keep myself glued together the best I can. And, I dream, hope and pray that my difficult children will be able to live on their own - OUT OF MY HOUSE!!! I have to believe that I won't always have to care for them - Otherwise, I think I would lose my mind...WFEN</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SearchingForRainbows, post: 93129, member: 3388"] Ok, I spent twenty minutes pouring my heart out only to be interrupted by the phone. When I got back here, I must have hit the wrong button and now my thoughts are floating somewhere in cyberspace... Anyway, I spent all night thinking about this post. A few people said things that stuck in my mind... Sue said that taking care of difficult children is like "Chinese water torture." I totally agree!!! Problem after problem, etc., crisis after crisis, etc., definitely takes its toll. Emotionally I've changed. I used to be a very outgoing person. Now, I crave SILENCE!!! I just find myself wanting to be left alone way too much. I've become hardened and detached from my difficult children. I hate to admit this but lots of the things I do for my difficult children are done only out of my extreme sense of responsibility and out of GUILT. GUILT - I hate this word!!! WeepingWillow said that "living in a cesspool of negativity takes its toll no matter how much you might want it not to." She went on to talk about how it is impossible for us to put ourselves first. She compared taking care of difficult children to an Iraq soldier trying to take a "day off" from battle when in the middle of a war zone. This is so TRUE!!! A very minor example of this but one that has bothered me for a long time happened to me last winter. I had the flu and was so weak, sick, and exhausted that I had to set my alarm clock so I could wake up and take care of my difficult children (then ages 14 and 15). [img]:grrr:[/img] [img]:grrr:[/img] The STRESS we deal with on a daily basis would probably be unbelievable to those without difficult children. Another very minor example- Remember that phone call that interrupted my train of thought? Well, that was someone from a local hospital reminding me of difficult child 2's evaluation on Monday. She went on to say that they still don't have the referral. I've spent the last month trying to make sure that the referral would be there and that things would go smoothly. [img]:grrr:[/img] Now, I have to spend part of this morning trying to get through to a very busy pedi's office, explaining the situation for the zillionth time, and hoping someone will get this mess straightened out before Monday morning... Financially, my difficult children have caused havoc!!! (difficult child 1's crisis from two weeks ago has cost us $315 ($100 copay for emergency room, $140 copay for 4 extra visits to psychiatrist and tdocs, and $75 copay for medication so far...) Sometimes I just feel like my heart is breaking...I always feel stressed out. I'm pretty good at hiding it though. I keep myself glued together the best I can. And, I dream, hope and pray that my difficult children will be able to live on their own - OUT OF MY HOUSE!!! I have to believe that I won't always have to care for them - Otherwise, I think I would lose my mind...WFEN [/QUOTE]
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