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Anyone here have POA or custodianship of their difficult child?
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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 630198" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I know there was a woman here who had guardianship of her son to force him to stay in treatment and it caused HUGE problems in their relationship for several years. I cannot for the life of me remember her name. She had a twin sister who died suddenly and she thought it was a suspicious death but the police and her parents did not, and she moved to I think Arizona out in the boonies somewhere for a while, but I lost track of her and she has not been here for a while. Other than that, I cannot think of anyone.</p><p></p><p>I think you will not get guardianship easily unless his psychiatrist agrees with you and that is rare, from my experience. It is likely you will have to tell him he has to get a job and pay rent or leave, and then likely make him leave. I believe that in most states if he is still in high school you cannot force him to leave before he graduates. Also, in MANY states, if he is there for a night after he is 18 then he has residency and will have to be evicted unless he has a lease/rental agreement that says he has to do x, y, and z or leave within X hours/days notice. I would sit him down with a lease and make him sign or leave on his birthday rather than having to evict him. From parents i have seen go through eviction, that 30 days notice turns into 'let's trash everything and steal whatever isn't nailed down that we can pawn". I have seen parents here who ended up literally losing thousands of dollars to fix damage done by an angry teen who was refusing to do what was expected and got served with eviction because of that. One friend let her son have her old home when she bought a new one on the condition that the kid pay her the amt of the mortgage. He didn't pay her any rent, and he completely trashed the house (after the real estate market went bust the house would have listed for about $60,000). by the time she got him out the house was actually condemned by the health dept because he literally destroyed it. She had less than three years until it was paid off and she lost the entire value of the building. She had to sue her son for the value or her insurance would not cover ANY of the loss either. He didn't even have a party lifestyle before he had the house. He just let anyone come over and do anything, then when she had to serve eviction papers he literally let people tear the copper wires out of the walls and tear out the old iron bathtub to sell for scrap. It was sickening and broke her heart. She won't even speak to him now and they were, at one time, very close. </p><p></p><p>Talk to an atty and see what you can do and what the law will allow you to do. I think "Do to Get" will be your best friend at this point. he wants a ride, what will he do for you? He wants free food? What will he do to earn it? that sort of thing. It is just the way the world is, and the sooner he learns this, the better off he will be, Know what I mean??</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 630198, member: 1233"] I know there was a woman here who had guardianship of her son to force him to stay in treatment and it caused HUGE problems in their relationship for several years. I cannot for the life of me remember her name. She had a twin sister who died suddenly and she thought it was a suspicious death but the police and her parents did not, and she moved to I think Arizona out in the boonies somewhere for a while, but I lost track of her and she has not been here for a while. Other than that, I cannot think of anyone. I think you will not get guardianship easily unless his psychiatrist agrees with you and that is rare, from my experience. It is likely you will have to tell him he has to get a job and pay rent or leave, and then likely make him leave. I believe that in most states if he is still in high school you cannot force him to leave before he graduates. Also, in MANY states, if he is there for a night after he is 18 then he has residency and will have to be evicted unless he has a lease/rental agreement that says he has to do x, y, and z or leave within X hours/days notice. I would sit him down with a lease and make him sign or leave on his birthday rather than having to evict him. From parents i have seen go through eviction, that 30 days notice turns into 'let's trash everything and steal whatever isn't nailed down that we can pawn". I have seen parents here who ended up literally losing thousands of dollars to fix damage done by an angry teen who was refusing to do what was expected and got served with eviction because of that. One friend let her son have her old home when she bought a new one on the condition that the kid pay her the amt of the mortgage. He didn't pay her any rent, and he completely trashed the house (after the real estate market went bust the house would have listed for about $60,000). by the time she got him out the house was actually condemned by the health dept because he literally destroyed it. She had less than three years until it was paid off and she lost the entire value of the building. She had to sue her son for the value or her insurance would not cover ANY of the loss either. He didn't even have a party lifestyle before he had the house. He just let anyone come over and do anything, then when she had to serve eviction papers he literally let people tear the copper wires out of the walls and tear out the old iron bathtub to sell for scrap. It was sickening and broke her heart. She won't even speak to him now and they were, at one time, very close. Talk to an atty and see what you can do and what the law will allow you to do. I think "Do to Get" will be your best friend at this point. he wants a ride, what will he do for you? He wants free food? What will he do to earn it? that sort of thing. It is just the way the world is, and the sooner he learns this, the better off he will be, Know what I mean?? [/QUOTE]
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