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Anyone turned a child over to the state??
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<blockquote data-quote="BloodiedButUnbowed" data-source="post: 731879" data-attributes="member: 13303"><p>You have already gotten great advice. I am puzzled as to why several professionals you have worked with apparently recognize the danger this child poses (ie; recommends a residential placement) yet refuses to assist you in moving forward with that recommendation. </p><p></p><p>I have a few additional suggestions which you might find helpful.</p><p></p><p>First, you should ask your local police department for assistance in filing a petition to declare your son a minor in need of supervision (the nomenclature varies from state to state). This puts the authorities on notice that your son is incorrigible and won't respond to your efforts around parenting him, setting boundaries, etc. You may not get much additional help at first but it will begin a formal paper trail showing you've alerted the powers that be about your son's issues.</p><p></p><p>Second, you don't mention if your son has an IEP or not, but based on your description he certainly sounds like a child with an emotional disability. If he does not already have an IEP, you might want to write a letter (must be in writing) addressed to the chairperson of special education at his school, asking for a formal evaluation for special education services based on his behavior problems AS SHOWN IN SCHOOL. The evaluation process takes time and likely won't produce any results until next school year begins, but once an IEP is in place, he can access a range of therapeutic services ranging all the way up to a residential placement - and if this is deemed an appropriate educational environment for him you may not have to relinquish custody to the state in order to get him out of the family home and into a safer setting where he can hopefully get some help.</p><p></p><p>If he does have an IEP and his behavior isn't well managed in school, you can request a meeting to discuss placing him in a stricter environment (note that the residential placement is the LAST option and most districts will fight not to choose that option due to the considerable expense involved).</p><p></p><p>Third you can go to family court, explain your son's long history of issues and frankly beg them for help dealing with him. If you share joint custody with his father the court may compel Dad to step up a bit more. This court can also help you identify the path to giving up custody of your son to the state in a way that will protect you.</p><p></p><p>I am so sorry you are dealing with this. Keep us posted. This is a wonderful and supportive community.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BloodiedButUnbowed, post: 731879, member: 13303"] You have already gotten great advice. I am puzzled as to why several professionals you have worked with apparently recognize the danger this child poses (ie; recommends a residential placement) yet refuses to assist you in moving forward with that recommendation. I have a few additional suggestions which you might find helpful. First, you should ask your local police department for assistance in filing a petition to declare your son a minor in need of supervision (the nomenclature varies from state to state). This puts the authorities on notice that your son is incorrigible and won't respond to your efforts around parenting him, setting boundaries, etc. You may not get much additional help at first but it will begin a formal paper trail showing you've alerted the powers that be about your son's issues. Second, you don't mention if your son has an IEP or not, but based on your description he certainly sounds like a child with an emotional disability. If he does not already have an IEP, you might want to write a letter (must be in writing) addressed to the chairperson of special education at his school, asking for a formal evaluation for special education services based on his behavior problems AS SHOWN IN SCHOOL. The evaluation process takes time and likely won't produce any results until next school year begins, but once an IEP is in place, he can access a range of therapeutic services ranging all the way up to a residential placement - and if this is deemed an appropriate educational environment for him you may not have to relinquish custody to the state in order to get him out of the family home and into a safer setting where he can hopefully get some help. If he does have an IEP and his behavior isn't well managed in school, you can request a meeting to discuss placing him in a stricter environment (note that the residential placement is the LAST option and most districts will fight not to choose that option due to the considerable expense involved). Third you can go to family court, explain your son's long history of issues and frankly beg them for help dealing with him. If you share joint custody with his father the court may compel Dad to step up a bit more. This court can also help you identify the path to giving up custody of your son to the state in a way that will protect you. I am so sorry you are dealing with this. Keep us posted. This is a wonderful and supportive community. [/QUOTE]
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