Hi G,
Well, you have got the ball started rolling.
You are laying the foundation with a paper trail. Document everything.
Video his behaviors so that he won’t just be shown on his best behavior. Start a daily diary and document his behaviors, good and bad. Write down how you dealt with each incident.
It may take some time, but at least someone is listening to you. When you inevitability start to doubt yourself, go back and read/watch/listen to your evidence.
Your son is a danger to his sister, and needs help. Hopefully, he will learn to control it, and will live a productive life.
Hang on, and keep posting.
Apple