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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 702891" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>But if that were true, why do most adult children thrive? Maybe the brain continues to mature however the brsin is mature enough for most eighteen to nineteen years olds to plan s good path for their lives.</p><p></p><p></p><p></p><p>I believe it is hidden issues such as undiagnosed high functioning autism, some mental illness including personality disorders</p><p>, Cognitive differences and learning disorders ,,(even with a high IQ) and addiction. Most older teens are willing, even eager to go to college, work full time, cut the cord and succeed. There is something very different about failure to thrive adults, yet they have many characteristics in common. One is their over representation in the restaurant business which often doesn't pay well or drug test.</p><p></p><p>Where I work (,a restaurant) there was a young 20s man who already had more jobs than most have in a lifetime and got fired from all or walked out. He was homeless for a stretch snd vocally bragged about his drug use. He just got fired from our restaurant for not showing up or calling in. He is a nice early 20s kid but is fine getting fired because then he can go back on welfare. He never works at one place for long and is dependent on the good will of others for a roof. His parents are done.</p><p></p><p>I think this twenty something young adult has something going on besides drug use. All and all, he is s typical non thriving 24 year old. I see them a lot st the restaurantI work at. They just don't share societal values. On the other hand are the many workers at the restaurant who work in the summer to make college money. So there you have a study in contrasts. They don't walk out or not show up.</p><p></p><p>My vote says they are different and since they don't succeed and many still live with Mom, they attract those who function at their own level so it becomes their norm in their world.</p><p></p><p>College and the military start at 18 and most young people do those things or choose a good full time job. They take responsibility for themselves usually and are kind to others. Those that choose another path due to personality or true disabilities just don't attract young adults who do well.</p><p></p><p>Thirty is a late start in life if you suddenly decide to thrive. By then many of your peers are married and successful at work. Employers look at a blank resume and wonder. It can be done, but it's harder. If it took until 30 for the brain to thrive enough for a person to get it, why are most men and women well on their way to s good life by at least 20? Even my autistic son was out of the house and working by 20 (before thst really,,,). You don't need a brain 100% matured to go to college, work, do military, follow societal rules, reject drugs etc. My daughter is 20. She has three years of college under her belt and will join The Police Academy soon. Did YOU wait until 25 to understand the rules of life or want to be independent?</p><p></p><p>Law of attraction. Look it up. It's true.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 702891, member: 1550"] But if that were true, why do most adult children thrive? Maybe the brain continues to mature however the brsin is mature enough for most eighteen to nineteen years olds to plan s good path for their lives. I believe it is hidden issues such as undiagnosed high functioning autism, some mental illness including personality disorders , Cognitive differences and learning disorders ,,(even with a high IQ) and addiction. Most older teens are willing, even eager to go to college, work full time, cut the cord and succeed. There is something very different about failure to thrive adults, yet they have many characteristics in common. One is their over representation in the restaurant business which often doesn't pay well or drug test. Where I work (,a restaurant) there was a young 20s man who already had more jobs than most have in a lifetime and got fired from all or walked out. He was homeless for a stretch snd vocally bragged about his drug use. He just got fired from our restaurant for not showing up or calling in. He is a nice early 20s kid but is fine getting fired because then he can go back on welfare. He never works at one place for long and is dependent on the good will of others for a roof. His parents are done. I think this twenty something young adult has something going on besides drug use. All and all, he is s typical non thriving 24 year old. I see them a lot st the restaurantI work at. They just don't share societal values. On the other hand are the many workers at the restaurant who work in the summer to make college money. So there you have a study in contrasts. They don't walk out or not show up. My vote says they are different and since they don't succeed and many still live with Mom, they attract those who function at their own level so it becomes their norm in their world. College and the military start at 18 and most young people do those things or choose a good full time job. They take responsibility for themselves usually and are kind to others. Those that choose another path due to personality or true disabilities just don't attract young adults who do well. Thirty is a late start in life if you suddenly decide to thrive. By then many of your peers are married and successful at work. Employers look at a blank resume and wonder. It can be done, but it's harder. If it took until 30 for the brain to thrive enough for a person to get it, why are most men and women well on their way to s good life by at least 20? Even my autistic son was out of the house and working by 20 (before thst really,,,). You don't need a brain 100% matured to go to college, work, do military, follow societal rules, reject drugs etc. My daughter is 20. She has three years of college under her belt and will join The Police Academy soon. Did YOU wait until 25 to understand the rules of life or want to be independent? Law of attraction. Look it up. It's true. [/QUOTE]
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