Well, for a while I have been thinking that my step-son has been doing better. Maybe getting "it" a little. Then, it all comes crashing down. He lost his job. For a really stupid reason. His roommate's girlfriend's birthday. They--he and the roommate--refused to take work offered that day and the guy fired them. Son said he didn't have any choice, because the roommate was the one that talked to the boss on the phone, but I think SS could have tried to call the guy back and try to salvage his own employment (if he really wanted to). Granted,it wasn't much of a job, but it was something. And now they are selling plasma to buy cigarettes! The roommate has a food assistance card, but SS hasn't even bothered to apply. He told his dad a couple of weeks ago that he had a job making $20 per hour, working for a legitimate business, but so far that hasn't materialized. And when dad encourages him to try a place that he knows has openings, and knows some people there, SS doesn't even try. At least not yet. Dad has mentioned this same place before, and he never even tried to apply. Maybe drug-testing makes him reticent? Dad has talked to him a few times recently offering to get him a car, and SS doesn't act at all interested! Dad has let that go, at this point. Dad really hoped that a car would give him the ability to get a job that isn't in walking distance of his apartment, or one that his roommate also shares. But he doesn't seem interested. We did give him an old phone and some minutes. Hubby was with them this weekend, and listened to the roommate complain that many jobs wouldn't even allow him to apply because of his lack of a diploma. Well, there is a way to fix that! It may get desperate here soon. So, why do they continue to follow the same pattern, do the same things, and keep getting the same results? Even if he gets a job, the pattern just seems to repeat itself. This is far from the first job he has lost or quit over the last couple of years. There have been many. So, what is behind the "failure to thrive"? Not just with my SS, but with your young adults? Wanna discuss?