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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 732954" data-attributes="member: 4152"><p>i have a friend of thirty years who has a high powered job and is paid well. This does not bother me, in fact I think it’s awesome.</p><p></p><p>We live in different states. She visited us at our new house recently and her and her husband stayed about three days.</p><p></p><p>I posted about her as she disappointed me when I asked her to not take my photo when I was all puffed up on prednisone, had gained a lot of weight and had a puffy face. She took photos anyway and said I was over sensitive and my hair and dress looked nice. I dropped it and thought to myself “ agree to disagree.” But it did not seem particularly kind. But, again...I felt it might be a difference of opinion.</p><p></p><p>As an important side note...We might travel together soon. We as couples sometimes travel together. Been doing this off and on for thirty years.</p><p></p><p>I texted her about a weird problem that has come up in my family re elderly friend of family. She called. We spoke briefly and she said she would call back. She never did. I just assumed she was busy. I did not take it personally.</p><p></p><p>While on the phone I mentioned that I was almost off prednisone and ThrILLED! NOT a single word out of her mouth. Nada. Nothing. Dead silence. It bothered me. Does not seem like a normal or kind response.she is well aware the prednisone bothers me with crazy side effects.</p><p></p><p>Ok. A week or so went by and she did not call when she said she would re that family friend problem. I needed to text her re traveling. I said in my text “Everything is much calmer now with that problem we spoke of. I need to touch base with travel plans....”</p><p></p><p>She wrote back and said how much she loves travelling with us and provided helpful information.</p><p></p><p>Did not respond at all to that first sentence re the situation being better. Nada. Did not even say”Glad to hear that difficult situation with family friend is better. Glad we are once again planning a vacation...blah blah....” nope.</p><p></p><p>Am I truly over sensitive? Or does she seem HARD and INsensitive? I almost feel used ...like come to my house etc. vacation together...but I’m not sure I want to be close with you. After thirty years , I thought we were getting closer.</p><p></p><p>To our SHOCK they did not offer for us to spend a weekend at their house. She did give me a very expensive housewarming gift. I don't know. ????</p><p></p><p>I sometimes get the impression they have times they border on desperation to get away from the stress just a guess though. I don't know. So, a trip to our house or a vacation is great. Going to their house could be more stress. Hence, no reciprocal invite. I don't know. </p><p></p><p>Any “takes” on this?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 732954, member: 4152"] i have a friend of thirty years who has a high powered job and is paid well. This does not bother me, in fact I think it’s awesome. We live in different states. She visited us at our new house recently and her and her husband stayed about three days. I posted about her as she disappointed me when I asked her to not take my photo when I was all puffed up on prednisone, had gained a lot of weight and had a puffy face. She took photos anyway and said I was over sensitive and my hair and dress looked nice. I dropped it and thought to myself “ agree to disagree.” But it did not seem particularly kind. But, again...I felt it might be a difference of opinion. As an important side note...We might travel together soon. We as couples sometimes travel together. Been doing this off and on for thirty years. I texted her about a weird problem that has come up in my family re elderly friend of family. She called. We spoke briefly and she said she would call back. She never did. I just assumed she was busy. I did not take it personally. While on the phone I mentioned that I was almost off prednisone and ThrILLED! NOT a single word out of her mouth. Nada. Nothing. Dead silence. It bothered me. Does not seem like a normal or kind response.she is well aware the prednisone bothers me with crazy side effects. Ok. A week or so went by and she did not call when she said she would re that family friend problem. I needed to text her re traveling. I said in my text “Everything is much calmer now with that problem we spoke of. I need to touch base with travel plans....” She wrote back and said how much she loves travelling with us and provided helpful information. Did not respond at all to that first sentence re the situation being better. Nada. Did not even say”Glad to hear that difficult situation with family friend is better. Glad we are once again planning a vacation...blah blah....” nope. Am I truly over sensitive? Or does she seem HARD and INsensitive? I almost feel used ...like come to my house etc. vacation together...but I’m not sure I want to be close with you. After thirty years , I thought we were getting closer. To our SHOCK they did not offer for us to spend a weekend at their house. She did give me a very expensive housewarming gift. I don't know. ???? I sometimes get the impression they have times they border on desperation to get away from the stress just a guess though. I don't know. So, a trip to our house or a vacation is great. Going to their house could be more stress. Hence, no reciprocal invite. I don't know. Any “takes” on this? [/QUOTE]
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