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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 600446" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>No, it's not normal. Most adults don't use physical violence to others. I do believe that in longer relationships there tends to be situations and words said that would be considered abusive at least if said often, but physical violence is different matter.</p><p></p><p>I and my husband also tussle and we play sports and those may cause some bruises. And I'm often enough bruised by my restlessly sleeping husband; he tends to kick, flail his hands, roll on my space and has even pushed me out of bed few times. But that is of course different.</p><p></p><p>I have to say my husband has very unfortunate habit in close relationships to use his size, loud voice and ability to overpower others to win arguments. Maybe being the oldest kid in his family and big for his age also among peers have taught it to him. It does madden me even though I taught him not to try that with me. He doesn't touch people or even hint direct violence, he just comes a bit too close, into other person's space, talks a bit too loudly and doesn't let you to finish what you are saying. Doesn't do that to me any more, because I any and every time from the beginning asked him to take a step back and speak with normal voice and told him I hadn't finished what I was about to say. Never raised my voice or got into his face but neither took a step back and refused to continue an argument, if he was breathing my air. For him it is mostly bad habit but of course also a easy way to get his way. Still irritates me even though he doesn't do it to me (our boys at times yes.)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 600446, member: 14557"] No, it's not normal. Most adults don't use physical violence to others. I do believe that in longer relationships there tends to be situations and words said that would be considered abusive at least if said often, but physical violence is different matter. I and my husband also tussle and we play sports and those may cause some bruises. And I'm often enough bruised by my restlessly sleeping husband; he tends to kick, flail his hands, roll on my space and has even pushed me out of bed few times. But that is of course different. I have to say my husband has very unfortunate habit in close relationships to use his size, loud voice and ability to overpower others to win arguments. Maybe being the oldest kid in his family and big for his age also among peers have taught it to him. It does madden me even though I taught him not to try that with me. He doesn't touch people or even hint direct violence, he just comes a bit too close, into other person's space, talks a bit too loudly and doesn't let you to finish what you are saying. Doesn't do that to me any more, because I any and every time from the beginning asked him to take a step back and speak with normal voice and told him I hadn't finished what I was about to say. Never raised my voice or got into his face but neither took a step back and refused to continue an argument, if he was breathing my air. For him it is mostly bad habit but of course also a easy way to get his way. Still irritates me even though he doesn't do it to me (our boys at times yes.) [/QUOTE]
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