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<blockquote data-quote="DaisyFace" data-source="post: 554030" data-attributes="member: 6546"><p><em>{Rumpole--</em></p><p><em></em></p><p><em>I know that you are a new member here and do not know my family's story...so please do not take this as a personal attack...}</em></p><p></p><p>I have to say I ABHOR the phrase "fresh start". I cannot tell you how many tdocs in different settings have declared that all our difficult child needed was a "fresh start" - and that if we could pretend like nothing had ever happened then somehow things would be OK moving forward.</p><p></p><p>For me - "fresh start" is like a slap in the face. IOW - let everyone who has been abused and mistreated buck up and smile so that difficult child doesn't have to admit she made a mistake or might owe someone an apology or<em> *gasp!* a</em>ctually try to make amends.</p><p></p><p>We saw MUCH better results when difficult child experienced the consequences of her actions. It was only after experiencing some of these negative consequences that she has been motivated to change. (Nearly getting fired at work, for example, motivated her to do a better job. Getting kicked out of the house a couple of times has motivated her to treat the family better. etc. etc.)</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DaisyFace, post: 554030, member: 6546"] [I]{Rumpole-- I know that you are a new member here and do not know my family's story...so please do not take this as a personal attack...}[/I] I have to say I ABHOR the phrase "fresh start". I cannot tell you how many tdocs in different settings have declared that all our difficult child needed was a "fresh start" - and that if we could pretend like nothing had ever happened then somehow things would be OK moving forward. For me - "fresh start" is like a slap in the face. IOW - let everyone who has been abused and mistreated buck up and smile so that difficult child doesn't have to admit she made a mistake or might owe someone an apology or[I] *gasp!* a[/I]ctually try to make amends. We saw MUCH better results when difficult child experienced the consequences of her actions. It was only after experiencing some of these negative consequences that she has been motivated to change. (Nearly getting fired at work, for example, motivated her to do a better job. Getting kicked out of the house a couple of times has motivated her to treat the family better. etc. etc.) [/QUOTE]
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