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Are you a people pleaser? You may be and not know it.
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<blockquote data-quote="Scent of Cedar *" data-source="post: 653704" data-attributes="member: 17461"><p>I am totally a people pleaser, to the point that I literally do not know what I want.</p><p></p><p>I want everyone to be happy.</p><p></p><p>That is what makes me happy.</p><p></p><p>But now that I am all broken, I see that these people I have been so fixated on are ugly, and that ours is an ugly story, and that I am sometimes oh, so regrettably ugly, myself.</p><p></p><p>Hooray for me.</p><p></p><p>Being able to accept that this is so means I am coming real.</p><p></p><p>It's a pretty good feeling.</p><p></p><p>It has to do with locus of control.</p><p></p><p>With safety, with believing we can take care of ourselves.</p><p></p><p>I think this is true.</p><p></p><p>I admire us, actually, for having survived when it was impossible to leave. Can you imagine our powerlessness in that time....</p><p></p><p>Whoa, f you mom, blah, blah, blah etcetera and so on.</p><p></p><p><img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/hugs.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":hugs:" title="hugs :hugs:" data-shortname=":hugs:" /></p><p></p><p> <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/emoticons/choir.gif" class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":choir:" title="choir :choir:" data-shortname=":choir:" /></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Scent of Cedar *, post: 653704, member: 17461"] I am totally a people pleaser, to the point that I literally do not know what I want. I want everyone to be happy. That is what makes me happy. But now that I am all broken, I see that these people I have been so fixated on are ugly, and that ours is an ugly story, and that I am sometimes oh, so regrettably ugly, myself. Hooray for me. Being able to accept that this is so means I am coming real. It's a pretty good feeling. It has to do with locus of control. With safety, with believing we can take care of ourselves. I think this is true. I admire us, actually, for having survived when it was impossible to leave. Can you imagine our powerlessness in that time.... Whoa, f you mom, blah, blah, blah etcetera and so on. :hugs: :choir: [/QUOTE]
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