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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 354916" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>I have had a few of those, "I can't trust you" reactions after bringing things up to the therapist that difficult child didn't want him to know about. Ohhh, he got so mad at me, felt like I betrayed him somehow. I told him that the reason he is going to therapist is to work through these situations and that therapist can not help him if he doesn't have the entire picture of what is going on. If there was nothing to work on, then he didn't need a therapist. difficult child does not go as often anymore (every 2 -3 months unless something comes up) so I make a list of things that have happened (good and bad) since the last visit. I make three copies, one for difficult child, one for the therapist, and one for me. difficult child gets to read it on the way there or in the waiting room so there are no surprises.</p><p> </p><p>I know this is not always possible. I have still brought things up during my time in the office. One time I did ask to meet with therapist first to present an issue (it did happen to be something difficult child wanted to work on but didn't want to bring up on his own - it was too hard for him to tell his therapist that he had displayed some bad behaviors) and discuss my input in private. I do think that there are things we as parents need to bring out without difficult child's hearing as they will misinterpret our goals. Ideas we want input on without difficult child knowing our thoughts. My difficult child thinks I am attacking him when all I want to do is lay all the cards on the table and work it out.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 354916, member: 5096"] I have had a few of those, "I can't trust you" reactions after bringing things up to the therapist that difficult child didn't want him to know about. Ohhh, he got so mad at me, felt like I betrayed him somehow. I told him that the reason he is going to therapist is to work through these situations and that therapist can not help him if he doesn't have the entire picture of what is going on. If there was nothing to work on, then he didn't need a therapist. difficult child does not go as often anymore (every 2 -3 months unless something comes up) so I make a list of things that have happened (good and bad) since the last visit. I make three copies, one for difficult child, one for the therapist, and one for me. difficult child gets to read it on the way there or in the waiting room so there are no surprises. I know this is not always possible. I have still brought things up during my time in the office. One time I did ask to meet with therapist first to present an issue (it did happen to be something difficult child wanted to work on but didn't want to bring up on his own - it was too hard for him to tell his therapist that he had displayed some bad behaviors) and discuss my input in private. I do think that there are things we as parents need to bring out without difficult child's hearing as they will misinterpret our goals. Ideas we want input on without difficult child knowing our thoughts. My difficult child thinks I am attacking him when all I want to do is lay all the cards on the table and work it out. [/QUOTE]
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