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<blockquote data-quote="BusynMember" data-source="post: 641243" data-attributes="member: 1550"><p>Hon, you are saving your grandson from your daughter's drug addiction, lying and general dysfunction. If you can think of what you are doing as being your grandson's savior, maybe you can feel peaceful with your decision. Your daughter, flesh and blood or not, if not fit to be a mother and it's hard enough for you to ride with her...can you imagine your grandson having to ride with her for the rest of his life?</p><p></p><p>Our difficult children are always angry at us. What else is new. It would be great, in my own opinion, if you could acknowledge the good you are doing for your GS and feel good enough about yourself to move on to live the rest of your life knowing you have been a hero. If your daughter is abusive, you don't have to listen to her. You can choose, if you are tired of the abuse, to go low contact with your daughter. Maybe a ten minute phone call twice a week and you tell her in advance you will disconnect if she is not respectful...then, in MY world, I do it. You don't need to see her until she is ready to treat you like the caring mother and grandma you are. It's totally up to you. There is bad news and good news here. Bad news: You have 0% control over your daughter's life. Good news: You have 100% control of your own life and can choose to deal with your daughter in a different way if you want to. You do not have to listen to her.</p><p></p><p>You can choose to hang with your loved ones who appreciate you, pursue your hobbies, go back to doing the things you love, and embracing the wonder of life. It's all in your power. Your daughter can only destroy your life is you let her do it.You know she is going to try guilt and abuse such as, "You are pulling my son away from me. How could you do this to me? I'm your daughter! (Fill in the rest of the abusive conversation)." But she's just trying to guilt you and you don't have to listen. The real truth is that she is unfit to care for any child, let alone one with special needs. She can't face the truth. Our grown kids have a big problem taking the blame even when it stares them in the face.</p><p></p><p>You have some tough decisions to make. To me, you are a hero to that little boy though.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="BusynMember, post: 641243, member: 1550"] Hon, you are saving your grandson from your daughter's drug addiction, lying and general dysfunction. If you can think of what you are doing as being your grandson's savior, maybe you can feel peaceful with your decision. Your daughter, flesh and blood or not, if not fit to be a mother and it's hard enough for you to ride with her...can you imagine your grandson having to ride with her for the rest of his life? Our difficult children are always angry at us. What else is new. It would be great, in my own opinion, if you could acknowledge the good you are doing for your GS and feel good enough about yourself to move on to live the rest of your life knowing you have been a hero. If your daughter is abusive, you don't have to listen to her. You can choose, if you are tired of the abuse, to go low contact with your daughter. Maybe a ten minute phone call twice a week and you tell her in advance you will disconnect if she is not respectful...then, in MY world, I do it. You don't need to see her until she is ready to treat you like the caring mother and grandma you are. It's totally up to you. There is bad news and good news here. Bad news: You have 0% control over your daughter's life. Good news: You have 100% control of your own life and can choose to deal with your daughter in a different way if you want to. You do not have to listen to her. You can choose to hang with your loved ones who appreciate you, pursue your hobbies, go back to doing the things you love, and embracing the wonder of life. It's all in your power. Your daughter can only destroy your life is you let her do it.You know she is going to try guilt and abuse such as, "You are pulling my son away from me. How could you do this to me? I'm your daughter! (Fill in the rest of the abusive conversation)." But she's just trying to guilt you and you don't have to listen. The real truth is that she is unfit to care for any child, let alone one with special needs. She can't face the truth. Our grown kids have a big problem taking the blame even when it stares them in the face. You have some tough decisions to make. To me, you are a hero to that little boy though. [/QUOTE]
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