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<blockquote data-quote="Copabanana" data-source="post: 669417" data-attributes="member: 18958"><p>Looked at one way, things are going OK. Not great, but OK. He is healthy. Nothing bad has happened <em>to him</em>. There has been learning. </p><p> </p><p>At least by us. </p><p></p><p>What still needs to happen, and I am speaking to myself here is detachment. The choices that my son makes about his own life, affect me. If he has friends. What he does for his birthday. If he feels happy. </p><p></p><p>These things do not have to affect me if I do not let them. I do not think it is a matter of boundaries as much as acceptance that there is not one thing I can do or not do that will make my son choose to live well. Not one thing. </p><p></p><p>And if he chooses to live poorly, I can still live well. I can work. I can be happy. I can travel or move. I can have a good life. I can succeed. </p><p></p><p>That is where I am still falling down.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Copabanana, post: 669417, member: 18958"] Looked at one way, things are going OK. Not great, but OK. He is healthy. Nothing bad has happened [I]to him[/I]. There has been learning. At least by us. What still needs to happen, and I am speaking to myself here is detachment. The choices that my son makes about his own life, affect me. If he has friends. What he does for his birthday. If he feels happy. These things do not have to affect me if I do not let them. I do not think it is a matter of boundaries as much as acceptance that there is not one thing I can do or not do that will make my son choose to live well. Not one thing. And if he chooses to live poorly, I can still live well. I can work. I can be happy. I can travel or move. I can have a good life. I can succeed. That is where I am still falling down. [/QUOTE]
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