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<blockquote data-quote="DDD" data-source="post: 42759" data-attributes="member: 35"><p>Absolutely the decision has to be yours based on your needs. on the other hand I think that perhaps since you and SO broke up, lived in</p><p>separate houses and discussed your relationship as if it were</p><p>over. Reuniting on a tentative basis would not lend itself to</p><p>the girls feeling that you must be included in the get together.</p><p>The hours and hours of old home movies may be their way to connect emotionally. My husband has watched "my" family films once.</p><p>I could watch them for multiple hours because each time I would</p><p>see some little detail that I had not cued in on before. All alone (which obviously only happens a few times every few years!)</p><p>I would "see" that Grandma was wearing her favorite shoes or the</p><p>china on the table was long gone but fondly remembered. Vainly, I get a kick out of seeing myself in my early twenties managing</p><p>three children, a dog, a husband and entertaining family that is</p><p>now long gone. </p><p></p><p>I won't post again on this thread because I don't want to sound</p><p>critical. I'm not. It's just that my perspective is so very</p><p>different that I can relate to how "his" family "might" feel.</p><p></p><p>by the way, this summer husband, easy child/difficult child, difficult child and I are going to a "family</p><p>reunion" at my stepdaughters house. We will spend two days out</p><p>of town and I'm sure we will have a nice time. As we leave to</p><p>head home again I know I will finally exhale. husband will exhale</p><p>even more deeply because spending that much time with his Ex and</p><p>her difficult child-husband is going to be stressful. Blended families are very</p><p>darn complicated..LOL. DDD</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DDD, post: 42759, member: 35"] Absolutely the decision has to be yours based on your needs. on the other hand I think that perhaps since you and SO broke up, lived in separate houses and discussed your relationship as if it were over. Reuniting on a tentative basis would not lend itself to the girls feeling that you must be included in the get together. The hours and hours of old home movies may be their way to connect emotionally. My husband has watched "my" family films once. I could watch them for multiple hours because each time I would see some little detail that I had not cued in on before. All alone (which obviously only happens a few times every few years!) I would "see" that Grandma was wearing her favorite shoes or the china on the table was long gone but fondly remembered. Vainly, I get a kick out of seeing myself in my early twenties managing three children, a dog, a husband and entertaining family that is now long gone. I won't post again on this thread because I don't want to sound critical. I'm not. It's just that my perspective is so very different that I can relate to how "his" family "might" feel. by the way, this summer husband, easy child/difficult child, difficult child and I are going to a "family reunion" at my stepdaughters house. We will spend two days out of town and I'm sure we will have a nice time. As we leave to head home again I know I will finally exhale. husband will exhale even more deeply because spending that much time with his Ex and her difficult child-husband is going to be stressful. Blended families are very darn complicated..LOL. DDD [/QUOTE]
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