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Asking for prayers for my difficult child for court on Monday
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<blockquote data-quote="pinevalley" data-source="post: 544118" data-attributes="member: 3710"><p>I'm back from the courthouse, and nothing seemed to go the way that I had hoped for difficult child. difficult child was sentenced to boot camp, and then probation for 8 months after that. He had to plead guilty two two counts, residential burglary and theft, and he received boot camp instead of prison for these two felony charges. Our attorney told me that the judge refused to consider the special probation for drug offenders, but she did not want to send him to prison, so that is why he received boot camp. When our attorney called me outside of the courtroom and told me about the boot camp sentence, I got angry and told him that he should ask for a continuance and continue to negotiate for the special probation. He told me that i was not being realistic, and that he has tried his best, and the judge will not change her mind about the probation. I insisted that our attorney try harder, and he went back into the courtroom to see what he could do about probation, but he told me that difficult child had agreed to the boot camp and he has accepted his sentence. I don't think that our attorney was good at negotiating for the probation, but unfortunately difficult child brought all this on himself. One of the victims was also in the court room, and that did not help anything. The woman who was the victim of residential burglary, because difficult child used the code to her garage (given to him by her son, a druggie friend) to go into her house and take her jewelry. She looked angry the entire time and kept talking to the prosecutor, and I think that she really wanted difficult child to be sent to prison. I refused to talk to her, but I think that she probably influenced the prosecutor. I was only able to see difficult child for a few minutes, and I could not talk to him. I talked to him last night and he was hoping that he would get a continuance so the attorney could work on probation. I'm sure that he is not happy about the boot camp. </p><p></p><p>The boot camp is 120 days of hard labor, running 4 miles every day, drills several times a day, and a lot of strenuous exercises. I really don't think that difficult child will be able to handle the boot camp, and that he will either give up or get kicked out of the program. If he does not make it in boot camp then he has to go before the same judge for another sentence, which will probably be several years in prison. I have talked to my h, and he is glad that the court delays are all over and he keeps telling me that difficult child will make it through boot camp. I feel totally helpless right now, because there is nothing that we can do for difficult child, and everything is out of our control. We can not have any contact with him for the first 30 days of boot camp, so I won't even know if he is still in the camp. I just feel like the life of our only son is ruined because of his drug use and his stupid decisions. He has been sitting in jail for 5 months, and now he will have at least 4 more months of hard labor before he will have a possibility of being free. I keep thinking about the first time he was in rehab, and how he started using drugs 3 days after he was out of rehab. I remember begging and pleading with him to go back to rehab, and his answer every time was "I'll go tomorrow". He had no intention of going back to rehab, but he could not tell me that so he lied to me time after time. Never in a million years would I ever think that our son would lie and steal from us, end up in jail and become a convicted felon. This is like a nightmare that just never ends. </p><p></p><p>I have to try to put our son out of my mind, and not think about him at all, because it just makes me upset to think of him in boot camp. Thanks so much for your prayers and kind thoughts. Now I have to figure out of way to get on with my life and not obsess about difficult child and the disaster that he has made of his life.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="pinevalley, post: 544118, member: 3710"] I'm back from the courthouse, and nothing seemed to go the way that I had hoped for difficult child. difficult child was sentenced to boot camp, and then probation for 8 months after that. He had to plead guilty two two counts, residential burglary and theft, and he received boot camp instead of prison for these two felony charges. Our attorney told me that the judge refused to consider the special probation for drug offenders, but she did not want to send him to prison, so that is why he received boot camp. When our attorney called me outside of the courtroom and told me about the boot camp sentence, I got angry and told him that he should ask for a continuance and continue to negotiate for the special probation. He told me that i was not being realistic, and that he has tried his best, and the judge will not change her mind about the probation. I insisted that our attorney try harder, and he went back into the courtroom to see what he could do about probation, but he told me that difficult child had agreed to the boot camp and he has accepted his sentence. I don't think that our attorney was good at negotiating for the probation, but unfortunately difficult child brought all this on himself. One of the victims was also in the court room, and that did not help anything. The woman who was the victim of residential burglary, because difficult child used the code to her garage (given to him by her son, a druggie friend) to go into her house and take her jewelry. She looked angry the entire time and kept talking to the prosecutor, and I think that she really wanted difficult child to be sent to prison. I refused to talk to her, but I think that she probably influenced the prosecutor. I was only able to see difficult child for a few minutes, and I could not talk to him. I talked to him last night and he was hoping that he would get a continuance so the attorney could work on probation. I'm sure that he is not happy about the boot camp. The boot camp is 120 days of hard labor, running 4 miles every day, drills several times a day, and a lot of strenuous exercises. I really don't think that difficult child will be able to handle the boot camp, and that he will either give up or get kicked out of the program. If he does not make it in boot camp then he has to go before the same judge for another sentence, which will probably be several years in prison. I have talked to my h, and he is glad that the court delays are all over and he keeps telling me that difficult child will make it through boot camp. I feel totally helpless right now, because there is nothing that we can do for difficult child, and everything is out of our control. We can not have any contact with him for the first 30 days of boot camp, so I won't even know if he is still in the camp. I just feel like the life of our only son is ruined because of his drug use and his stupid decisions. He has been sitting in jail for 5 months, and now he will have at least 4 more months of hard labor before he will have a possibility of being free. I keep thinking about the first time he was in rehab, and how he started using drugs 3 days after he was out of rehab. I remember begging and pleading with him to go back to rehab, and his answer every time was "I'll go tomorrow". He had no intention of going back to rehab, but he could not tell me that so he lied to me time after time. Never in a million years would I ever think that our son would lie and steal from us, end up in jail and become a convicted felon. This is like a nightmare that just never ends. I have to try to put our son out of my mind, and not think about him at all, because it just makes me upset to think of him in boot camp. Thanks so much for your prayers and kind thoughts. Now I have to figure out of way to get on with my life and not obsess about difficult child and the disaster that he has made of his life. [/QUOTE]
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