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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 288404" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>Ok. I think enough offense has been taken. We will call the very disturbed, very ill (mentally ill) child difficult child for now, if no one has a problem with that.</p><p></p><p>Police should be called EVERY time this boy crosses the line. We have laws and statutes for a reason. Walking up to someone's 17yo daughter and lifting her skirt is going to get this difficult child killed in a back alley by someone's fed up non-Asperger's difficult child. Or a group of scared parents.</p><p></p><p>We don't want that. At. All.</p><p></p><p>So call the police if this boy is menacing. enough calls, with enough people pressing charges, and "the system" will get involved. I don't know what the parents of the difficult child are doing, or what the other parents are doing. I would suggest that parents of teens consult a lawyer or the police to see what can LEGALLY be done. What is the line between stopping him from causing harm, when can that line be APPROACHED, how to get the other teens informed and keep them from ganging up and beating this child to a tragic end of many of their young lives. </p><p></p><p>That is how parents can find out what can be done, AND keep their teens safe from this boy. Sadly, teens should not move around alone - they need to stay in groups. If this boy comes up they need to know how to handle situations. If they handle things wrong, it could end in legal problems and/or dangerous situations.</p><p></p><p>I can bet a LOT of the teens in the area are VERY angry. They have a right to be. But this boy also has rights.</p><p></p><p>This is NOT Aspergers. Not alone. Not without something strange being done tot he boy at many points (or just one. In 1st grade my son met an angry little boy. Boy said women were evil, were devils. My son BELIEVED this. Took us YEARS to work it through. My son IS an Aspie.) This boy is SERIOUSLY, DANGEROUSLY MENTALLY ILL. (Right. Tell you something you didn't know, right?)</p><p></p><p>The parents of the difficult child have got the wagons circled. THey know he is sick. Scary sick. You have NO idea the torture they have gone through. Even if you were BEST friends they wouldn't tell you everything. How scared the mom must be that he will attack HER, for instance. How scared they are that he will NEVER leave home and they will die at his hand or the hand of an angry mob out to lynch him. How mom has to get him out of the house to keep him from assaulting HER. It is a sad situation.</p><p></p><p>But they are NOT going to get out of "protect him at all costs" mode easily. It probably isn't going to be much fun. But the neighborhood MUST do what it can to learn what LEGAL options are available. Can the kids carry pepper spray to defend themselves? Where is the line between self defense and assault? ALL of this is incredibly important info. Maybe if enough parents are upset you could meet at a church or other place with the police and/or lawyers to learn your options?</p><p></p><p>I guarantee that the police know it is a tense area. This will help them keep everyone safe and unharmed. Teens with pepper sprya may not be the best idea. Ask the police what IS the best idea?</p><p></p><p>Understand that the parents are in the lowest circle of Hades right now. NOTHING they can do is right at this point. SOMEONE is going to point fingers no matter what they do or have done. Extend an olive branch maybe. Or not.</p><p></p><p>Know that the boy is ill but his behavior is criminal and dangerous (in my opinion). Learn how to protect yourself. And your family and friends.</p><p></p><p>Then form a plan and stick to it. A plan for SAFETY for EVERYONE, including the difficult child.</p><p></p><p>I am sorry. This is a tough and thorny problem.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 288404, member: 1233"] Ok. I think enough offense has been taken. We will call the very disturbed, very ill (mentally ill) child difficult child for now, if no one has a problem with that. Police should be called EVERY time this boy crosses the line. We have laws and statutes for a reason. Walking up to someone's 17yo daughter and lifting her skirt is going to get this difficult child killed in a back alley by someone's fed up non-Asperger's difficult child. Or a group of scared parents. We don't want that. At. All. So call the police if this boy is menacing. enough calls, with enough people pressing charges, and "the system" will get involved. I don't know what the parents of the difficult child are doing, or what the other parents are doing. I would suggest that parents of teens consult a lawyer or the police to see what can LEGALLY be done. What is the line between stopping him from causing harm, when can that line be APPROACHED, how to get the other teens informed and keep them from ganging up and beating this child to a tragic end of many of their young lives. That is how parents can find out what can be done, AND keep their teens safe from this boy. Sadly, teens should not move around alone - they need to stay in groups. If this boy comes up they need to know how to handle situations. If they handle things wrong, it could end in legal problems and/or dangerous situations. I can bet a LOT of the teens in the area are VERY angry. They have a right to be. But this boy also has rights. This is NOT Aspergers. Not alone. Not without something strange being done tot he boy at many points (or just one. In 1st grade my son met an angry little boy. Boy said women were evil, were devils. My son BELIEVED this. Took us YEARS to work it through. My son IS an Aspie.) This boy is SERIOUSLY, DANGEROUSLY MENTALLY ILL. (Right. Tell you something you didn't know, right?) The parents of the difficult child have got the wagons circled. THey know he is sick. Scary sick. You have NO idea the torture they have gone through. Even if you were BEST friends they wouldn't tell you everything. How scared the mom must be that he will attack HER, for instance. How scared they are that he will NEVER leave home and they will die at his hand or the hand of an angry mob out to lynch him. How mom has to get him out of the house to keep him from assaulting HER. It is a sad situation. But they are NOT going to get out of "protect him at all costs" mode easily. It probably isn't going to be much fun. But the neighborhood MUST do what it can to learn what LEGAL options are available. Can the kids carry pepper spray to defend themselves? Where is the line between self defense and assault? ALL of this is incredibly important info. Maybe if enough parents are upset you could meet at a church or other place with the police and/or lawyers to learn your options? I guarantee that the police know it is a tense area. This will help them keep everyone safe and unharmed. Teens with pepper sprya may not be the best idea. Ask the police what IS the best idea? Understand that the parents are in the lowest circle of Hades right now. NOTHING they can do is right at this point. SOMEONE is going to point fingers no matter what they do or have done. Extend an olive branch maybe. Or not. Know that the boy is ill but his behavior is criminal and dangerous (in my opinion). Learn how to protect yourself. And your family and friends. Then form a plan and stick to it. A plan for SAFETY for EVERYONE, including the difficult child. I am sorry. This is a tough and thorny problem. [/QUOTE]
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