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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 288514" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I know you care about the community safety, but in this case there is little you CAN do. Whatever you do is going to leave the parents feeling attacked and defensive - and possibly resentful of the child. This is a recipe for child abuse. You CAN NOT know what goes on behind closed doors. You have NO idea if the child was abused in any way by them, or by anyone else. Children with disabilities are OFTEN seen as easy prey by abusers. They often CANNOT verbalize what happened. If they can tell anyone they are often not believed. So this behavior can happen because they were abused. They are hurt and angry, and believe it is OK to act that way because it happened to them.</p><p></p><p>Even if you call everyone in town, NO ONE can tell you anything. Often all that the teachers/school/anyone will tell the family is that you are stirring up trouble. A recipe for disaster if ever there was one with this boy.</p><p></p><p>The boy is a 14yo child with disabilities. CPS will ask him if anything happened to him - IF they do much of anything. He probably CANNOT verbalize things, the disability and likely stern warnings from his parents to never tell (IF anything did happen to him) will keep him quiet. Cps will probably not do much besides offer parenting classes to the parents. You already know they are not receptive.</p><p></p><p>Teachers, other school personnel, church officials, other people in the community cannot do much. Or will not do much. IF everyone who had a problem with the boy reported it to the police AND CPS then MAYBE in a few months they would do something besides just talk to the parents. Each talk will set the boy up for more of the treatment his parents are already giving him - which you feel is inappropriate (if I understand you).</p><p></p><p>The BEST thing you can do is to speak to the police. Set up a community protection meeting, like a neighborhood watch meeting. Salt the crowd with a few people who will speak up about this child. But also about other problems, such as sex offenders living in the community (there are probably several).</p><p></p><p>Knowledge is power. In this case you need knowledge to keep your family safe. Sadly, you cannot do much about (or for) this difficult child.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 288514, member: 1233"] I know you care about the community safety, but in this case there is little you CAN do. Whatever you do is going to leave the parents feeling attacked and defensive - and possibly resentful of the child. This is a recipe for child abuse. You CAN NOT know what goes on behind closed doors. You have NO idea if the child was abused in any way by them, or by anyone else. Children with disabilities are OFTEN seen as easy prey by abusers. They often CANNOT verbalize what happened. If they can tell anyone they are often not believed. So this behavior can happen because they were abused. They are hurt and angry, and believe it is OK to act that way because it happened to them. Even if you call everyone in town, NO ONE can tell you anything. Often all that the teachers/school/anyone will tell the family is that you are stirring up trouble. A recipe for disaster if ever there was one with this boy. The boy is a 14yo child with disabilities. CPS will ask him if anything happened to him - IF they do much of anything. He probably CANNOT verbalize things, the disability and likely stern warnings from his parents to never tell (IF anything did happen to him) will keep him quiet. Cps will probably not do much besides offer parenting classes to the parents. You already know they are not receptive. Teachers, other school personnel, church officials, other people in the community cannot do much. Or will not do much. IF everyone who had a problem with the boy reported it to the police AND CPS then MAYBE in a few months they would do something besides just talk to the parents. Each talk will set the boy up for more of the treatment his parents are already giving him - which you feel is inappropriate (if I understand you). The BEST thing you can do is to speak to the police. Set up a community protection meeting, like a neighborhood watch meeting. Salt the crowd with a few people who will speak up about this child. But also about other problems, such as sex offenders living in the community (there are probably several). Knowledge is power. In this case you need knowledge to keep your family safe. Sadly, you cannot do much about (or for) this difficult child. [/QUOTE]
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