Q refused to leave the class swing....the swing is a big deal issue with him, why dont they put one in his room? Anyway.... here is what I think is going on....and yes, much of it is totally my fault this time... This morning I was not very patient. Q did not wait for me to unlock the inside lock on the chain and he opened the door and pulled hard which stripped the screws out (and we rent plus I dont want him to do that....) So I took away the game he was bringing to school (totally stupid and I know it) and said if he said anything mean to me I would throw it away. I hate it when I screw up like that. I was just not in any mood...it had been 45 minutes of constant foot pounding, feeding the dog candy, blurting words (I could ignore that pretty easily) shoving me as he walked by, etc. And for some reason I just could not shut up. I had to just pull the you better stop mode out. I have not felt great for a couple of days and have been up since very early with a stomach ache and just didn't have any mature moments during this. I called the sp ed admin since I knew I could get him....and wanted someone before the bus got there. I told him he might be obsessively worried about my getting rid of the game. Please give him an OUT and allow him to call and work it out with me...we have done that with other things and it was fine. It took it off his mind. He said sure. So asst principal called and said he wouldnt' ge tout of the chair, wouldn't stop swearing ("Wouldn't") and so they called for help, whenthe bell rang he went just fine... stuck to the schedule. He took a key (welll he is in fight flight, and they are supposed to have the keys locked up because he always takes them.... no one uses them during school so they are to keep them in a drawer now... I think they should have a bunch of fake keys out so he can just take some) but then he is in poking the mat with the key. So asst principal said he is gonna call me... a few seconds later the psychiatric came in with the key... Q gave it up when they said they were gonna call. Q knows I am stressed about the phone calls. I try not to say anything around him but I heard him on the stairs and found out he was sitting at the bottom when I was hiding upstairs to call in private (when talking to the mn law center). I told him we are just working all together to make a good school plan for him. He knows I was talking about everything though. So, now I feel so guilty. I did ask though, has mr sp ed talked to Q. did he tell anyone what was going on. they always tell me to be sure to call if there is anything int he morning....so I call. I always do. but mr sp ed is no where to be found and he never told anyone. I asked asst principal to please get him and have him talk with Q (he is also the one who helped when Q worked things out with the girl he likes etc.) This could have been shut down before it ever started. I get so frustrated. I will say though... asst principal said that he is not out of control, just stuck and they did not think I needed to come in at this point. HE was just giving me a heads up. I am in this middle point of wanting to throw in the towel for MY sake but that is not fair to Q. he needs an education and I am not in a position to home school him with all of our own issues. We would be great if there was no school work. Just really tired of myself and this stuff.