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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 719592" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>I know it can be hard. I hope I didn't seem to blunt. I can come off that way. I know you may not be ready for all of that. Take whatever steps toward that which you are ready for. It is a big leap. We will support you as you travel toward that. You don't have to make it all in one big step. It probably sounded like you did, but life isn't that black and white. I looked over what I read and realized it sounded like you had to go and do all of that right away. It might be great if you did, but you may not be ready to do all of that. If you are not ready, you are not ready. You can only do what you can do. </p><p></p><p>There is an article on detachment on the Parent Emeritus forum that you should read. It is super helpful. Many of us read it over and over. It is a process, and a journey. It isn't one giant leap into an abyss. </p><p></p><p>Only take the steps you are ready for and can be consistent with. It is far worse to take giant step and then slide back than to take a smaller step that you can maintain. FAR, FAR worse. For both you and for your son.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 719592, member: 1233"] I know it can be hard. I hope I didn't seem to blunt. I can come off that way. I know you may not be ready for all of that. Take whatever steps toward that which you are ready for. It is a big leap. We will support you as you travel toward that. You don't have to make it all in one big step. It probably sounded like you did, but life isn't that black and white. I looked over what I read and realized it sounded like you had to go and do all of that right away. It might be great if you did, but you may not be ready to do all of that. If you are not ready, you are not ready. You can only do what you can do. There is an article on detachment on the Parent Emeritus forum that you should read. It is super helpful. Many of us read it over and over. It is a process, and a journey. It isn't one giant leap into an abyss. Only take the steps you are ready for and can be consistent with. It is far worse to take giant step and then slide back than to take a smaller step that you can maintain. FAR, FAR worse. For both you and for your son. [/QUOTE]
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