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<blockquote data-quote="SmartGrl001" data-source="post: 202784" data-attributes="member: 6087"><p>I did the questionnaire at that childbrain website. She still doesn't fit the bill. The more and more I read on all of these I am still pretty convinced that it is Sensory Integration Disorder (SID) and ADD/ADHD. I am not ruling anything completely out though. Obviously I am no expert. If a professional tells me she as Aspergers or Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) I won't get upset and disagree with them. I do, for some reason, have a fear of any kind of autistic diagnosis, but I will not let that fear overpower my will to find what works for my daughter so she can be a successful and productive adult. I'm willing to put the work in...I'm willing to listen to professionals and to try whatever they ask me to try, within reason as to safety (obviously I'm not naive enough to do something harmful to my child), because what I am doing is not working. Traditional parenting does not work with her, because I don't understand her.</p><p> </p><p>I have noticed though, now that I have been reading more and more about the Sensory Integration Disorder (SID), I have changed things. Not even necessarily intentionally per se, but because now I know that the things she finds annoying she may actually be perceiving as hurting her, such as wind in her face, getting her hair washed and brushed, clothes being annoying. Until I have been "taught" how I can help her get through some of these things, I am just trying a gentler approach because now I'm not seeing her as just being a brat, I'm seeing her as a tortured soul. She has been quite a bit calmer the past couple days because I have changed my views towards her through research.</p><p> </p><p>I also agree, after reading a bunch, that she needs an occupational therapist, but when you're on state insurance, finding one is the issue. That's why I made the appointment with the child psychologist first, because they can probably point me to an occupational therapist that will take the insurance. I also do have an appointment with her pediatrician, but I couldn't get in there until November 4th. The child psychologist is next week. And I already figured with the issues she has that I will definitely be having several meetings with whatever school she is in. She is in a 2 day a week preschool now. I have talked to the teacher a couple times. The last day she had preschool was last Tuesday, before I found this board. I told the teacher I was thinking she had ADHD, and I still believe she probably has at least a touch of it, but all the things I'm reading are telling me HEY, YOUR KID HAS Sensory Integration Disorder (SID)....she fits so much of that criteria it's not even funny.</p><p> </p><p>In the meantime, the living situation has to change too. We are actively looking (and I mean actively) for a new house to move in to. We live with my parents right now, so there are 5 adults, and 2 children. We've lived here a little over a year. I have tried so hard to implement my way of parenting as I wasn't crazy about the way my parents raised me, but every time I mention anything my mom gets really hacked off that I would even suggest she's doing anything wrong. I believe the living situation has just amplified the situation to a really severe level. My 3 year old is a completely different child when she's home with just me, or just me and her father. When everybody is here, she goes nuts, and I really believe it's because there's so much noise and commotion when everybody's here, it's driving her nutso.</p><p> </p><p>Anyway, I am open to going to whatever therapy I find helps my daughter. Because of her feeding issues as a child, we had a home nurse visiting 3 times a week for weight checks, we had to see the pediatrician every week for "official" weight checks, we had to see the GI doctor once a month for an "official GI" weight check, we had to go to the health department once a month for checks and such, and then of course all the regular doctors visits. I am a pro at the too many appointments in a lifetime thing, so it's no big deal...lol. </p><p> </p><p>Out of curiosity, when they go to occupational therapy, is that more work on them, or work on the child and the parents to figure out parenting? I'm only asking because I'm trying to figure out if both her father and I need to go, or if I can just take her.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SmartGrl001, post: 202784, member: 6087"] I did the questionnaire at that childbrain website. She still doesn't fit the bill. The more and more I read on all of these I am still pretty convinced that it is Sensory Integration Disorder (SID) and ADD/ADHD. I am not ruling anything completely out though. Obviously I am no expert. If a professional tells me she as Aspergers or Pervasive Developmental Disorder (PDD) I won't get upset and disagree with them. I do, for some reason, have a fear of any kind of autistic diagnosis, but I will not let that fear overpower my will to find what works for my daughter so she can be a successful and productive adult. I'm willing to put the work in...I'm willing to listen to professionals and to try whatever they ask me to try, within reason as to safety (obviously I'm not naive enough to do something harmful to my child), because what I am doing is not working. Traditional parenting does not work with her, because I don't understand her. I have noticed though, now that I have been reading more and more about the Sensory Integration Disorder (SID), I have changed things. Not even necessarily intentionally per se, but because now I know that the things she finds annoying she may actually be perceiving as hurting her, such as wind in her face, getting her hair washed and brushed, clothes being annoying. Until I have been "taught" how I can help her get through some of these things, I am just trying a gentler approach because now I'm not seeing her as just being a brat, I'm seeing her as a tortured soul. She has been quite a bit calmer the past couple days because I have changed my views towards her through research. I also agree, after reading a bunch, that she needs an occupational therapist, but when you're on state insurance, finding one is the issue. That's why I made the appointment with the child psychologist first, because they can probably point me to an occupational therapist that will take the insurance. I also do have an appointment with her pediatrician, but I couldn't get in there until November 4th. The child psychologist is next week. And I already figured with the issues she has that I will definitely be having several meetings with whatever school she is in. She is in a 2 day a week preschool now. I have talked to the teacher a couple times. The last day she had preschool was last Tuesday, before I found this board. I told the teacher I was thinking she had ADHD, and I still believe she probably has at least a touch of it, but all the things I'm reading are telling me HEY, YOUR KID HAS Sensory Integration Disorder (SID)....she fits so much of that criteria it's not even funny. In the meantime, the living situation has to change too. We are actively looking (and I mean actively) for a new house to move in to. We live with my parents right now, so there are 5 adults, and 2 children. We've lived here a little over a year. I have tried so hard to implement my way of parenting as I wasn't crazy about the way my parents raised me, but every time I mention anything my mom gets really hacked off that I would even suggest she's doing anything wrong. I believe the living situation has just amplified the situation to a really severe level. My 3 year old is a completely different child when she's home with just me, or just me and her father. When everybody is here, she goes nuts, and I really believe it's because there's so much noise and commotion when everybody's here, it's driving her nutso. Anyway, I am open to going to whatever therapy I find helps my daughter. Because of her feeding issues as a child, we had a home nurse visiting 3 times a week for weight checks, we had to see the pediatrician every week for "official" weight checks, we had to see the GI doctor once a month for an "official GI" weight check, we had to go to the health department once a month for checks and such, and then of course all the regular doctors visits. I am a pro at the too many appointments in a lifetime thing, so it's no big deal...lol. Out of curiosity, when they go to occupational therapy, is that more work on them, or work on the child and the parents to figure out parenting? I'm only asking because I'm trying to figure out if both her father and I need to go, or if I can just take her. [/QUOTE]
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