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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 704311" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>GoodluckGirl, keep going to your counselor and getting support for taking back your life. This stuff is so crippling for us. </p><p></p><p>Your daughter sounds impossible to live with, and I'm so sorry about that. We can't have people in our own homes who will steal the silverware right out from under us. For most parents, that becomes the dealbreaker. We'll let them get away with so many other broken rules, starting from not bringing dishes down to the kitchen to using drugs and cussing us out and putting holes inthe walls but stealing becomes the bottom line stopping point.</p><p></p><p>It did for me. I used to write up contracts (ha ha) for my son to sign. I would sit him down and have these long talks about what he did wrong and how he had to change and here was a contract to sign. The last one was just one page. I can be a bit long-winded (really??? : )). He tore it up in my face. </p><p></p><p>Sooo...we try and we try and we try and finally we are depleted and nothing worked and we have to give it up. I was one of the slowest learners here. I kept on in the face of complete frustration and defeat...why...because I thought my love would somehow, one day, make a difference. It didn't.</p><p></p><p>My son hit what I thought would surely be rock bottom so many times, but it wasn't. It was six years of pure He__. </p><p></p><p>It sounds like you are working hard here, and let me support you wholeheartedly in that. Take your time and your pace to figure out what you can and can't do, and what you will and won't do. I know you so love your daughter. </p><p></p><p>I am so sorry she is clearly disturbed and ill. In time, what will happen will happen. Focus on yourselves and the children who are still there. Let you and them be as important as she is. Because you are.</p><p></p><p>We're here for you on this forum. Warm hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 704311, member: 17542"] GoodluckGirl, keep going to your counselor and getting support for taking back your life. This stuff is so crippling for us. Your daughter sounds impossible to live with, and I'm so sorry about that. We can't have people in our own homes who will steal the silverware right out from under us. For most parents, that becomes the dealbreaker. We'll let them get away with so many other broken rules, starting from not bringing dishes down to the kitchen to using drugs and cussing us out and putting holes inthe walls but stealing becomes the bottom line stopping point. It did for me. I used to write up contracts (ha ha) for my son to sign. I would sit him down and have these long talks about what he did wrong and how he had to change and here was a contract to sign. The last one was just one page. I can be a bit long-winded (really??? : )). He tore it up in my face. Sooo...we try and we try and we try and finally we are depleted and nothing worked and we have to give it up. I was one of the slowest learners here. I kept on in the face of complete frustration and defeat...why...because I thought my love would somehow, one day, make a difference. It didn't. My son hit what I thought would surely be rock bottom so many times, but it wasn't. It was six years of pure He__. It sounds like you are working hard here, and let me support you wholeheartedly in that. Take your time and your pace to figure out what you can and can't do, and what you will and won't do. I know you so love your daughter. I am so sorry she is clearly disturbed and ill. In time, what will happen will happen. Focus on yourselves and the children who are still there. Let you and them be as important as she is. Because you are. We're here for you on this forum. Warm hugs. [/QUOTE]
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