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<blockquote data-quote="Echolette" data-source="post: 612634" data-attributes="member: 17269"><p>So thank you thank you thank you all for your kind and generous responses. I cried while I read them. I am responding before taking your advice...I will look for NOMA (a search for CODA was unproductive). I have already read "codependent no more" mostly because of my relationship with men, but I could see how it applied to my relationship to my son as well (actually to a lot of people! rats!). I will look for a group. I will not kill myself.</p><p>I guess I need to know..when is it ok to talk to him? how do I talk to him? what do we talk about if he calls (he sometimes calls to tell me how great everything is, he has a place to stay, is applying for jobs, etc...this is never true, he just likes to say it...not sure if he wants me to see him as succeeding or wants to reassure me or is just crazy.)..do I let him tell me those stories? do I hammer away at "go to the resources I've pointed you too, etc" stuff? do I ask about his life (he'll lie, or tell me about intentions that will never be fulfilled).</p><p>and do I look for him? I looked under bridges when I was out running this morning (I started running again this week..I was spending all my time sleeping, time to push back) I walk through the park and look for him on my way to and from work, and I walk down the streets where I have seen him begging in the past. I looked in a couple of stores and coffee houses where I know he's hung out in the past to stay warm and use computers. Nada. At what point do I call hospitals? I did ask him to carry my number on him so I'd know if he was hurt or dead..I doubt he'll do that though.</p><p>Any guidance on the above....</p><p>also I don't know the abbreviations you use! difficult child? SA? PE? can you tell me some of the more common ones?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Echolette, post: 612634, member: 17269"] So thank you thank you thank you all for your kind and generous responses. I cried while I read them. I am responding before taking your advice...I will look for NOMA (a search for CODA was unproductive). I have already read "codependent no more" mostly because of my relationship with men, but I could see how it applied to my relationship to my son as well (actually to a lot of people! rats!). I will look for a group. I will not kill myself. I guess I need to know..when is it ok to talk to him? how do I talk to him? what do we talk about if he calls (he sometimes calls to tell me how great everything is, he has a place to stay, is applying for jobs, etc...this is never true, he just likes to say it...not sure if he wants me to see him as succeeding or wants to reassure me or is just crazy.)..do I let him tell me those stories? do I hammer away at "go to the resources I've pointed you too, etc" stuff? do I ask about his life (he'll lie, or tell me about intentions that will never be fulfilled). and do I look for him? I looked under bridges when I was out running this morning (I started running again this week..I was spending all my time sleeping, time to push back) I walk through the park and look for him on my way to and from work, and I walk down the streets where I have seen him begging in the past. I looked in a couple of stores and coffee houses where I know he's hung out in the past to stay warm and use computers. Nada. At what point do I call hospitals? I did ask him to carry my number on him so I'd know if he was hurt or dead..I doubt he'll do that though. Any guidance on the above.... also I don't know the abbreviations you use! difficult child? SA? PE? can you tell me some of the more common ones? [/QUOTE]
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