Forums
New posts
Search forums
What's new
New posts
New profile posts
Latest activity
Internet Search
Members
Current visitors
New profile posts
Search profile posts
Log in
Register
What's new
Search
Search
Search titles only
By:
New posts
Search forums
Menu
Log in
Register
Install the app
Install
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
At my wits end..new comer
JavaScript is disabled. For a better experience, please enable JavaScript in your browser before proceeding.
You are using an out of date browser. It may not display this or other websites correctly.
You should upgrade or use an
alternative browser
.
Reply to thread
Message
<blockquote data-quote="recoveringenabler" data-source="post: 612835" data-attributes="member: 13542"><p>Good morning Echolette. To move to the PE board, just start posting in that forum as you do here. You can start a new thread. I'll ask one of the moderators from this forum if they would move this thread to that forum. </p><p></p><p>To do a profile and bio,go under settings in the upper right hand corner, scroll down the left side, find what you're looking for and click on it. Remember that once you write it remember to save it. You likely didn't save it so it disappeared.</p><p></p><p>Yes, go to an al anon meeting and ask around for a Families anonymous or anything that fits. You might find you like the al anon group too. People supporting people to stop enabling another. There are also therapists who do sliding scale, most here do if money is a concern. Here in CA. a huge HMO offers a substance abuse program which has a codependency program within it, which I attended and it was exactly what I needed to get me through the worst part of the detachment process. Even though my daughter is not a substance abuser, they allowed me to be in the program because having a kid with mental issues is very similar and enabling is an issue in all of it.</p><p></p><p>The holidays are the most difficult time for all of us. It so represents family and when we're estranged from our kids, the estrangement looms large during a time which is all about family. I'm sorry you are going through this. I can relate since I may not see my daughter either. It's sad. However, do whatever you can to take care of yourself. Perhaps you might call the NAMI closest to you and ask them for referrals, advice, where to go in your area? I would turn over all the rocks to find support for myself. You will need it, it's very hard to do this alone.</p><p></p><p>Just remember, your son is invited to your Thanksgiving but is choosing to not come unless his girlfriend comes. In essence he is trying to hold you hostage with his demands for what HE wants, so not complying when that is NOT what you want is absolutely appropriate, it's YOUR home. If he chooses to be on the streets rather then with family because his girlfriend can't be there it is HIS choice, not yours. He is responsible for that choice, not YOU. You did the appropriate thing. I know that doesn't make it feel better, but it's the truth.</p><p></p><p>Try to get to an al anon group soon, it will help you. Wishing you a day of peace. (((HUGS)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="recoveringenabler, post: 612835, member: 13542"] Good morning Echolette. To move to the PE board, just start posting in that forum as you do here. You can start a new thread. I'll ask one of the moderators from this forum if they would move this thread to that forum. To do a profile and bio,go under settings in the upper right hand corner, scroll down the left side, find what you're looking for and click on it. Remember that once you write it remember to save it. You likely didn't save it so it disappeared. Yes, go to an al anon meeting and ask around for a Families anonymous or anything that fits. You might find you like the al anon group too. People supporting people to stop enabling another. There are also therapists who do sliding scale, most here do if money is a concern. Here in CA. a huge HMO offers a substance abuse program which has a codependency program within it, which I attended and it was exactly what I needed to get me through the worst part of the detachment process. Even though my daughter is not a substance abuser, they allowed me to be in the program because having a kid with mental issues is very similar and enabling is an issue in all of it. The holidays are the most difficult time for all of us. It so represents family and when we're estranged from our kids, the estrangement looms large during a time which is all about family. I'm sorry you are going through this. I can relate since I may not see my daughter either. It's sad. However, do whatever you can to take care of yourself. Perhaps you might call the NAMI closest to you and ask them for referrals, advice, where to go in your area? I would turn over all the rocks to find support for myself. You will need it, it's very hard to do this alone. Just remember, your son is invited to your Thanksgiving but is choosing to not come unless his girlfriend comes. In essence he is trying to hold you hostage with his demands for what HE wants, so not complying when that is NOT what you want is absolutely appropriate, it's YOUR home. If he chooses to be on the streets rather then with family because his girlfriend can't be there it is HIS choice, not yours. He is responsible for that choice, not YOU. You did the appropriate thing. I know that doesn't make it feel better, but it's the truth. Try to get to an al anon group soon, it will help you. Wishing you a day of peace. (((HUGS))) [/QUOTE]
Insert quotes…
Verification
Post reply
Forums
Parent Support Forums
Parent Emeritus
At my wits end..new comer
Top