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Message: <blockquote data-quote="timer lady" data-source="post: 545670" data-attributes="member: 393">It's been a very strange week here ......Background story ~ kt flew in here last Saturday & has been pretty much homeless since she arrived.  Not one of her "friends" would pick her up from the airport so she hitched a ride into town.  Got to town & basically had no where to stay so she stayed with the "gentleman" who is 44 & being investigated by the sex crimes unit here in town.  Ick.Wednesday kt shows up at my door burning up with a fever of 101.  Tweedle Dee was sicker than a dog & tired of living as a homeless person.  She wanted to go back to West VA.   I put her to bed & got her fever back to normal with a little TLC.  kt & I had some very long talks about life in general and then life as she knows it. I bought her a ticket back to West VA. kt called biomonster, who asked if I would talk to her.I spoke with the incubator for a good 45 minutes.  Listened to her whine about the "bogus charges of abuse". How could I tell kt & wm that they were abused, yada, yada, yada.  My reply was to very gently tell her that I didn't tell the tweedles a thing - it was the tweedles behaviors & how they were presenting to the doctors, hospitals, Residential Treatment Center (RTC)'s, etc.  After that, the incubator settled down a bit & asked a few very pertinent questions.  I answered them however, I didn't volunteer much.  She best learn what she got herself into.At the end of this conversation, I informed biomonster that while I was hurt and angry over how this all went down that I would no longer fight this.  It's what my tweedles want and as they're so conflicted already I wouldn't add to their confusion over bio family versus adopted family.  I will be here if kt and wm want to talk, but I won't feed their anger nor will I listen to their tirades of abuse and blame.   Biomonster asked if she could call if she needed to know something ~ I told her yes (doesn't mean I will pick up <img src="/community/styles/default/xenforo/smilies/2012/nervoussmiley.gif"  class="smilie" loading="lazy" alt=":nervoussmiley:" title="nervoussmiley    :nervoussmiley:" data-shortname=":nervoussmiley:" />)In the end, I'm at peace with all of this.  It's almost frightening how calm I am, and I'm not questioning it.  As I listened to biomonster, it hit me just how scared she sounded, how utterly in over her head she is. I felt nothing but sadness over that. In the end, I did the hard work with kt and wm.  Steve & I were the ones on our knees every night.  We loved them, raised them to the best of our abilities.After I drop kt off at the airport this morning I'm heading to my favorite nursery to buy mulch & some new flowers for my gardens. As it's late in the season I'm splurging on some annuals & a new picnic table for my patio.  I actually started a new painting. I will grieve and I will move forward.I'm at peace ...... </blockquote>

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