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<blockquote data-quote="MuM_of_OCD_kiddo" data-source="post: 452627" data-attributes="member: 12241"><p>You will deal with difficult child scenarios/rough days all your life long - so that isn't something to majorly sweat about [well it is, but you know what I am trying to say]. What concerns me in your post - is the non-communicating/misunderstanding/hostility between you and your husband. I think that I would be more worried about at this point, than your difficult child acting difficult towards you. </p><p></p><p>If you had until recently [before your week away???] a pretty decent marriage/relationship [difficult child and all] - then there are probably abandonment issues [both difficult child + hubby?], resentment over you taking a break, and on and on - but probably can be talked about + clarified between your husband and yourself. In this scenario you are probably looking at added anger by your son due to you "going away" for a while. </p><p></p><p>If the miscommunication and hostility has been going on for a while, then you might want to look at outside help and counseling to figure out what exactly is going on, and if you want to work on it, or walk away from it. Having to raise a difficult child is hard enough, doing it with added spousal negativity makes it near impossible to function well. I mean if you cannot count on his support, or to have your back, who can you count on? And the kids - difficult child or not - catch on to stuff like this immediately, and the underlying tension will add more additional stress to their life as well....</p><p></p><p>Don't be a doormat! I can tell that you are tired and worn out, but don't lay down and let them [both guys] roll all over you. Work on your relationship with your husband or at least clarify what is going on, before you make decisions that may have severe longterm repercussions. Hang in there! All of us parents with difficult children have gotten a rough deal, that nobody asked for. But it is what it is, so make the best you know how to deal with it. Heartfelt Hugs!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="MuM_of_OCD_kiddo, post: 452627, member: 12241"] You will deal with difficult child scenarios/rough days all your life long - so that isn't something to majorly sweat about [well it is, but you know what I am trying to say]. What concerns me in your post - is the non-communicating/misunderstanding/hostility between you and your husband. I think that I would be more worried about at this point, than your difficult child acting difficult towards you. If you had until recently [before your week away???] a pretty decent marriage/relationship [difficult child and all] - then there are probably abandonment issues [both difficult child + hubby?], resentment over you taking a break, and on and on - but probably can be talked about + clarified between your husband and yourself. In this scenario you are probably looking at added anger by your son due to you "going away" for a while. If the miscommunication and hostility has been going on for a while, then you might want to look at outside help and counseling to figure out what exactly is going on, and if you want to work on it, or walk away from it. Having to raise a difficult child is hard enough, doing it with added spousal negativity makes it near impossible to function well. I mean if you cannot count on his support, or to have your back, who can you count on? And the kids - difficult child or not - catch on to stuff like this immediately, and the underlying tension will add more additional stress to their life as well.... Don't be a doormat! I can tell that you are tired and worn out, but don't lay down and let them [both guys] roll all over you. Work on your relationship with your husband or at least clarify what is going on, before you make decisions that may have severe longterm repercussions. Hang in there! All of us parents with difficult children have gotten a rough deal, that nobody asked for. But it is what it is, so make the best you know how to deal with it. Heartfelt Hugs! [/QUOTE]
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