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<blockquote data-quote="aeroeng" data-source="post: 452671" data-attributes="member: 6557"><p>It does not matter if someone else has a difficult problem, your problems are important as well, big or little. You need to feel loved, supported and confident that husband has your back. The first step in getting to that point is to develop better communications. Try to talk with him away from the kids and anyone else. Consider going to a therapist, or someone who could help you work through it. Many times church leaders can offer counseling that can help. Let him know that status quo will not do. Walking away might help, but only if you know you will come back. i.e. use it too not react, cool off and re-focus, but not a separation. </p><p></p><p>For difficult child something upset him and he is clearly not comfortable sharing it with you. Some things you have to just let go. Respect his privacy, let him know he can always talk with you, but don't force it on him. And, from now on knock on the door first. Don't feel bad about entering when you did, at that point he was your little guy. But now that you know he is sensitive, respect it. When easy child was 9 he was very concerned because certain parts were changing and he did not understand it. Growing up is a wild ride with lots of changes he won't understand and might not wish to discuss with mom. It is OK. You don't need to solve all his problems, just support want you can.</p><p></p><p>And last. Eat more chocolate.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="aeroeng, post: 452671, member: 6557"] It does not matter if someone else has a difficult problem, your problems are important as well, big or little. You need to feel loved, supported and confident that husband has your back. The first step in getting to that point is to develop better communications. Try to talk with him away from the kids and anyone else. Consider going to a therapist, or someone who could help you work through it. Many times church leaders can offer counseling that can help. Let him know that status quo will not do. Walking away might help, but only if you know you will come back. i.e. use it too not react, cool off and re-focus, but not a separation. For difficult child something upset him and he is clearly not comfortable sharing it with you. Some things you have to just let go. Respect his privacy, let him know he can always talk with you, but don't force it on him. And, from now on knock on the door first. Don't feel bad about entering when you did, at that point he was your little guy. But now that you know he is sensitive, respect it. When easy child was 9 he was very concerned because certain parts were changing and he did not understand it. Growing up is a wild ride with lots of changes he won't understand and might not wish to discuss with mom. It is OK. You don't need to solve all his problems, just support want you can. And last. Eat more chocolate. [/QUOTE]
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